What should I do to be more happy? PLEASE HELP!!! Serious answers only. ?

Question

i probably had the worst childhood of everyone on earth, after the age of 9. before that everything was amazing, my parents got along and we would go on family vacations. but after 9, my parents got divorced, and my mom immediately starting dating a man who started to sexual harass me, and i am 14 now, and still to scared to tell my mom, even though i think she would dump him immediatel but im not sure she will belive me, because she knows how much i cant stand him, and we dont always get along. sometimes she even tells me i should go live with my dad full time, but most of the time, she is so loving when he is not around. i am scared he will come back to hurt my family if you kicks him to the curb, but my family is white and he is an illegal from mexico. I just want him to get deported so bad, because each day he is gradually tearing apart our family. everyday i pray that he will get caught for his wrong doings and get sent to prison, or even back where he belongs. but pretty soon i believe everything will turn around, and i will be living happily full time with my father (now it is every other day). what can I do to start living life to the fullest today? live with my dad is an option, but not what I am looking for.

Answer 1

Definitely sit down and tell your mother.  I know because of this happening to me and a sister when we were younger by a man we deemed our "uncle".  Although he was never married to my aunt we had known him for years and not until my sister and I were teens did we even discuss it amongst ourselves.  We never knew he was touching both of us. We finally told mom as adults and my mom was always open and approachable.  The thing is when something like this happens on any level to a child it takes away your innocence and puts you in an adult-like enrvironment...so unfair.  Your mother will believe you.  I would also suggest going to a counselor to discuss your feelings,  in certain cultures this type of thing goes on and no one says anything.  No one wants to rattle the cage but you are A SPECIAL HUMAN BEING and deserve all that is pure and wonderful in this world. Please tell your mom and if need be move to dads because until action is taken, it will continue.

Answer 2

do what your heart desires and only you can change your destiny.

Answer 3

Sam! Do not be afraid to talk to your Mom. If she does not believe you then talk to your Dad or the police. If he is this way with you then he is also that way with others. For your own safety you need to talk to some one. Before he does something worse. Get help now!

God Bless you!

Jim B. I Care!

Answer 4

you need to tell your mom-sit her down, tell her the reason you dont like him and why you dont get along with him is bc of what he did/does to you. if hes doing it to you hes or will do it to others, if your mom doesnt believe you then tell your dad.  

Answer 5

Number one...stay away from the step dad. Number 2 watch what you wear so that you don't provoke him. It might not be best staying with your dad...you might have a whole new set of problems...but you can test it out. You are old enough to know what you want but not legal age to do it. No. 3...You need to express your emotions to someone and let it all out...Don't bottle things up inside...that will make it worse...Is there someone you can talk to about this? Take Care

Answer 6

you should tell your mum when he next goes out somewhere if she don't believe try to get proof.

Answer 7

Talk to your dad.  If he is touching you or making any sexual innuendos towards you, you need to call the cops.  Once the cops get involved he will be deported.  If you don't want the cops involved make an anonomous call to to INS.  They may not believe you because you probably have a young voice so have your dad call.  

Your mom sounds like a piece of work...why don't you just move in with your dad.  It sounds like you'd be happier with him

Honey, you need to start thinking about YOURSELF.  This may hurt your mom but it is going to hurt you more if you stay there.  Even if she leaves this guy who is to say the next guy isn't going to be worse.  Save yourself...move in with your dad

Answer 8

OMG! you should express your anguish immediately to your mom when only no one is round. Sexual Harassment is illegal! Hurry up!  

Answer 9

I am a dad, I am divorced and my boy life with his mother. She is living with some one now so he is no different than you are.

My boy don't live with me but not a moment go buy that i don't think of him or love him any less, or not worry that other guy did not miss treating him.

Every time we meet i tell my remind my boy, if you have problems please speak up. We will work it together and will find the way to solve it together. If i can not help we can find some one that can help.

for your case, Disregard for what mom will believe  you or not, you should tell her what happen. She need to know that. A responsible parent she should think and put your benefit before her.

Dad also need to know.  

Answer 10

you can start by having a sit down with your mom and telling her everything that is happening. This is your mom, and she would want you to tell her if something is going on in the house behind her back. Hopefully she is not married to this man that has been harassing you.

Maybe she can get you into counseling because it seems like you have a lot of anger built up inside you and so much frustrating, as I do.  

Answer 11

i think u really have to report this guy to the police - it doesnt sound right, my opinion - if ur at school, i reccomend

stayig around at friends houses as long as possible this makes me happy,

seeing a school teacher that u trust - and tell them ur problem they would be able to help out heaps

tell you grandma.grandpa if you have them - because there ur parents kids and they would tell them the truth

even though the guy ur mums dating isnt nice u should try and get on his good side -



if your not at school -

reccomend getting a job and moving out of the house

depends how old u are

hope i helped  

Answer 12

Get counseling and a social worker who can help you.  Live with your dad for a bit while you get the professional help.  You need to be away from the mom's boyfriend while you are getting help so if he finds out he doesn't suddenly "change" to not get caught or become worse.  While getting help tell your mom.  Tell her you need her to believe you because you are trying to get help for this.  If she doesn't I'm sorry because she SHOULD.

Answer 13

Call immigration anonymously and have him deported. Call soon, happiness is just across the border!  

Answer 14

At 14 you should be tight with your Mother sharing stories and so on. Talk to Mums and seek a solution.

Answer 15

If you don't tell your mom, you will gradually start to hate yourself, and become wounded. Your future husband will get damaged goods, not because you were harassed, but because you did nothing about it. You will also gradually start to resent your mom, and eventually, you will not want to be around her. You will start to sleep around because that is the way you were taught by men to serve. You will feel even worse about yourself, but that will set off a chain reaction where you sleep with men trying to "scratch the itch", but you will hate yourself for being a tramp, eventually you'll resent men.

Your answer is to fight for yourself now, regardless of what you think you're mom will say or do.

Answer 16

love yourself baby girl... you are worthy of living the life of your dreams...