What should I do to be with my daughter and work to?

Question

I work a second shift job as a nurse, and my job is very rewarding. My only problem is my seven year old daughter really wants me at home at night. She is having behavior problems at school and at home. I really feel that I need to be at home with her. Has anyone been in this kind of situation?

Answer 1

my mom was a nurse and growing up i didnt have 2 much time with her either, but whenver she was home, she would go the extra mile to rent a movie and make popcorn or do something fun like making smores or something. i can understand if ur too tired to do something like that, though. my mom talked to me and my sisters individually and told us how much she loves us, and on holidays we did a bunch of fun things together. You should just try to be more a a best friend to your daughter whenever your around. and when youre not, call in from time to time just to say 'hi' and 'i love you' and 'be good'. i always appreciated those type of calls from mom

Answer 2

Can you change shifts so that the majority of your work hours are while she's at school.

Answer 3

Try making or getting copies of your daughters homework, call her in between patients asmuch as you can and before she goes to bed to discuss her work. If she is up when you get home, try to help her and answer any questions she might have. I used to do shift work too, and I would get off at 6 am. I would wait til my son got up and look over his work with him. It is tough, but as long as you try to be ther, things will work out. Hang in there.

Answer 4

you should take her to work with you and see how fun it is to be a nurse! it is alot of bonding, and i think she will love it!

Answer 5

Talk to her about the situation and why you need to work. When you are with her, make sure you are making the best use of time; engage in creative activities instead of just watching tv. Also, make sure you read with her as much as possible! Bring her to the library and book stores, and read in your spare time as well. Take turns reading aloud books you both have chosen. This exposure will diminish behavior problems (most likely) in the future.  She will hold education in high esteem and will act accordinly in school.

Answer 6

Go with what your intuition is telling you. Yes, she needs you. I made the mistake of working same shift as you, by the time my daughter was 12, she was having bully problems and didn't tell her dad or I. She actually tried to take her own life. While this is extreme, I just felt compelled to tell you. Her behavior problems are not just a cry for help. She is SCREAMING for help.

Answer 7

My mother worked & got off at 9 pm so I wanted to stay up but she wanted me in bed before she got home. I have a hard time believing she couldn't just spend a minute with me while the adult knows she was tired. I resent that my mother worked & so I made sure I was home with my kids. I have one son that died when he was 20 & I remember telling my boss's wife (a stay at home mom) that I was so glad I had all those hours with him. I have all those memories & he knew I loved him & he was important. Your job will be there later but your daughter will grow up. We need as much money as we decide we need.

Answer 8

Yes I have been in this situation for a year going to school at nights and my children wanting me to be home. So on the days and nights I don't have school I plan on family nights, we do things that they want I give them my complete attention. But, I also have informed them that what I am doing will benefit them in the long run. It's hard for them to understand now but they will.