What should I do to help my boyfriend?

Question

So my boyfriend has had some really bad past relationships. They really tore him apart and he's mentioned some of the things that really bothered him or destroyed his relationships in the past. He said that normally his relationships go really well at first but then they start to break apart. He has also told me that our relationship is very different (in a good way of course). We already know that we want to spend our lives together and that we want to get married. But it seems as if he feels like everything is gonna go wrong like in his last relationships. I really love him what could I do to show him to prove to him to make him believe in his heart that our relationship is not going to go like his past ones. I really really love this guy! thx in advance

Answer 1

hehe

Answer 2

Just be there for him. When he gets insecure let him know you are in it for the long haul.  Be sure he isn't that one that destroys the relationship and the girl has no choice but to leave.  I just found that out the hard way.

Answer 3

Time heals all wounds. The longer you stay with your guy & the relationship grows, he will see that this time things will be different.

Answer 4

If he loves you the  way you love him that should be enough but like you said he said its starts out great and ends up bad but if he told u that your relationship is diffrent the u should belive him.... And if you want to show him that its true then just tell him and prove it.......look him in the eyes and tell him how much you love him..... and then prove it to him over the months or years or how ever long till yall decide you want to get married.....And i know u think he has doubts becuz of his past but belive if if he says he loves u and is sure that this is diffrent....

But no matter what dont ever change for a guy...

If he loves you the way you are and he says its diffrent.. Then u shouldn't have any doubt...

Just help him through the hard time..

When hes down tell him that you are there for him no matter what happens....

When hes happy and knows its going great...

Tell him you love him and you know nothing will go wrong.....

Whens hes angry be there for him... Tell him you love him and you want to help him with whatever hes angry about....

Whens hes excited.... Try to be excited with him

Im sure if he really loves you he would do the same things!

Hope i helped!

Answer 5

Don't change for any guy if he don't believe that you guys will make it then there is nothing going to change his mind...if he cant believe then he is not worth having....find someone that has a little faith

Answer 6

Hi ya, all you really can do is be there when he feels insecure and reassure him of your love and comitment. However it really is in his hands..if he cant get thru all his doubts and insecurities it probably will end up ruining your relationship down the track. I understand your really trying hard to reasure him of your love but if you have to continue to do this throughout your entire relationship you will end up feeling worn out and neglected yourself. A relationship needs 2 people to put in and the most important ingredient is trust. Without that it will be a hard road, I think. Give your relationship a good go which you obviously are doing, maybe see a counsellor. Hopefully your love will be enough to make him feel secure. I wish you lots of love and happiness...Good luck.

Answer 7

i duno. 2 points wooooooohhhhhhooooooooooooo!

Answer 8

First of all, I'm in the same boat, but it is me not my fiance. I've had several horrible relationships in the past, and honestly, to this day it still haunts me. Ok, first off, you need to be completely understanding about his reservations. It will take some time for him to be able to trust you, not that he doesn't trust you already. Secondly, communication is the key in a relationship. Do you have any fears or worries?? Try discussing this with him, allowing him to vent as well. It always helps to be able to talk and relate on different issues. Opening up about a tough situation you've experienced and fears you may have may  help him understand that you have fears as well. Lastly, you need to inform him that trust is what makes a relationship work. If he can't trust you, then there is no point in being together. Tell him how much you trust him and he can't worry about things that he cannot control. Him constantly worrying about the past is putting a damper on both of your futures. He needs to let go of his past and look forward to his future with you.  

Answer 9

Don't change.

Don't anticipate things and decide to change to try and fix it. Just be yourself.

From experience, when every relationship goes wrong, at some point you have to look at the lowest common denominator. I'm not saying that your boyfriend was at fault in every relationship, but it does sound like there's something there that he may be contributing to. It may, at this point be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Just give him space. Just like a wounded dog, pushing for intimacy and trust is the worst thing to do. You'll get bit. Just let him come to you.

It's kind of scary that you haven't gotten past this trust threshold and you're already talking about marriage. Give it some time, for both of your sakes.

Answer 10

I think your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore. he want to brake you up.  sorry