What should I do to keep the peace???

Question

my fiance and i broke up in april. we have two daughters together 3 & 1. since we split it's been a constant battle between us for control. now i h ave decided that im going to date again. he's completely mad and doesn't want me to date or have any guys around our daughters.

i can agree with that to an extent. if i'm just going out on dates with random guys then no they shouldn't have to be introduced to my daughters but if im involved with a guy and we plan on taking it to the next level then he should be introduced to my daughters because they're a part of my life we come as a package deal.

he continues to call me disrespectful names cuz i want to move on with my life. he said that if i loved him then i wouldn't be moving on so fast. but while i do love him i don't think that i should be forced to wait around while he gets himself together and realizes that im a good woman.

am i doing the right thing? or should i just not date to please him, although i know that he's not waiting for me.

Answer 1

if you are not over him then dating would be a bad idea because you may want to compare him with the other guy and that's just annoying. i understand what you are saying and by all means you are a package with your daughters and don't forget that.

In the mean time i think you should have a moment of peace to your self to finally determine if you want him back in your life instead of playing games with your heart. Do what's best for you and not him. At the end of the day we have to live with the decisions that we make and no one else. If he wanted you then he would try harder and stop acting like a child. You are a woman and you have needs, if you think to your self that you are moving too fast then maybe you are. gforget about men and the c**p that they say about women and intution that is real if something just don't sit right with you deal with it ASAP. Be mindfull of you children cause you don't want them to see mom with too many guys even though they are still very young. Chat with your baby daddy  and see if is is serious and if youn are willing then fine. Again is your life and only you can determine your destiny.

Good luck and remember the most important guy in you life at all times should be the Lord.