What should I do to prove that I realize everything now?

Question

OK WELL HERE IS MY PROBLEM. WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW. OK ME AND MY HUSBAND USE TO BE SO IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER WHEN WE WAS STILL DATING. BUT EVER SINCE WE GOT MARRIED EVERYTHING CHANGE. HE DON'T SHOW ME AS MUCH AS HOW HE USE TOO. AS IN LOVING AND CARING. HE HAS HIS OWN PROBLEM AND SO IS ME. HIS PROBLEM IS THAT HE DON'T WANNA BE WITH ME ANYMORE BECAUSE HE WANTED ME TO CHANGE. HE WANTED ME TO LISTEN TO HIM. MY PROBLEM IS THAT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH AND I WANNA CHANGE BUT FOR SOME REASON I CAN. I COULD CHANGE OTHERS THING HE ASK ME, BUT I DON'T KNOW WHY I CAN LISTEN TO HIM. OK WELL HE GAVE ME SO MANY CHANCE TO CHANGE MYSELF AND I MESS UP ON ALL. NOW I REALIZE AND I REALLY WANNA CHANGE FOR HIM.BECAUSE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. AND DON'T WANNA LOSE HIM. BUT HE WON'T GIVE ME ANYMORE CHANCE BECAUSE HE SAID HE GAVE ME TOO MANY AND HE JUST GAVE UP. WHAT SHOULD I DO TO PROVE TO HIM THAT THIS TIME IS NOT LIE BUT IT IS FOR REAL BECAUSE I REALLY LEARN MY MISTAKE AND I REALLY WANNA BE WITH HIM FOREVER. WHAT SHOULD I DO.

Answer 1

changing yourself is a big job!

step 1 is accepting yourself as you are right now.

A difficult person to live with and relating to a husband who is about to walk out of the marriage.

So if that description fits, step 2 is accepting your husband as he is right now and also accepting that he is thinking of walking out.  

if that fits then step 3 is allowing things to be as they are and relaxing! stop controlling, fixing and changing. Breathe.Get calm

Step 4 is knowing that you will be okay as things are, whether he stays or goes, because you are serious about changing and That's great.Your happiness lies in being true to yourself, understanding why you are so difficult and forgiving yourself, not in keeping control over the man in your life- he will do what he wants! let him give up! but if you also give up on yourself, depression may follow showing him you are a liability not an asset. Come on! do this for yourself and show him by example even if he does leave.

Answer 2

Tell him if he treats you mean...you will find a boyfriend....

Answer 3

you shouldnt have to change to make someone love you. If he cant love you for who you are..he doesnt love YOU at all..sorry :(

Answer 4

look him in the  eye and say that u want him and that your life wont be the same without him in your life and that he is the only guy that u love and care about. and say ig u can give me one more chance ill prove to that i can change..

and if he awsers in a ok matter give him a hug NOT A KISS A HUG and say u will see i can change

Answer 5

You don;t change people in a relationship. People love you for who you are and you love people for who they are. I know it's cliche, but really, changing people doesn't work. in a relationship.  

Answer 6

Next time please use lower case, its so much easier to read. What are you shouting for?

Answer 7

All I can really say about this is sometimes we just wait to long to make some things happen and when we open our eyes and really see things it is just to late.... Seems your husband just got tired of waiting and really doesn't care about the issue anymore....