What should I do when i have 2 people that want to take me to meet my birth mom?

Question

What should I do when i have 2 people that want to take me to meet my birth mom?

Answer 1

Are you deciding which one to take or whether to go at all?

If it's which one to take, take them both if you're having trouble deciding.

If it's whether to go at all, that's a very personal decision and only  you can decide if you are ready.

Answer 2

uhh, go?

Answer 3

Are you 18?  That is the legal age for you to search for birthparents?

I would take them both.  The more support you have the better.  You are lucky that the 2 of them want to be there for you.

Answer 4

You can go or not go.

You can get the contact information, and wait.  Then if you decide one day you want to meet, you can.

There is no rush.  It can be on your timeline, or not at all.

All the choices are yours, and all are ok!

Answer 5

I say go but it's up to you.

Answer 6

sometimes it is easier to start a relationship with someone in  a Letter first. like pen pals. Then when you meet you have things to talk about in person and you won't feel overwhelmed by trying to see what qualities you have of theirs. you can decide from the letters if you want to meet in person or continue to get to know them over time and meet at a later date.

Answer 7

Which one do you confide in most? feel closer too?  Or, you could take both of them for moral support. It's a delicate situation requiring tons of love and patience!

Good luck.

Answer 8

Take whoever you feel more comfortable with. Or have both go with you.

Answer 9

take them both that way they can go hang out while you and your mom bond

Answer 10

It's up to you to decide. No one can make that decision for you.

Answer 11

you need to do what will make you feel the most comfortable.  This is about you and no one else only you can decide

Answer 12

Go if you want. don't if you don't. it's that easy.

My friend has never met his dad, I've offered to go with him to meet up, but I'd never force the issue, a truly good friend wouldn't. If he doesn't want to go, no sweat off my back. If he does, Road Trip!

Answer 13

why not??

in this world there 2 types of moms, birth mom and mom who takes care of you. you might not like her or you might actually love her.. you'll never know until you go and find out.. embrace yourself.. i would rather knowing her then not, don't want to regret it for the rest of my life.. after all, you lived in her womb for 9 months. who knows you can actually be friend with her..

Answer 14

Choose between the two, choose both or go alone.

Maybe you can ask your birthmother which option would she prefer?

Answer 15

this question needs more details, but go with both of them

Answer 16

that's totally up to you. If you don't want to meet her or have contact, you don't ever have too. But if you do want to, then ask these "2" people for her phone number or address and contact her yourself. They don't need to be involved unless you want them to be. That's personal between you and bio Mom. But also, talk to your adoptive parents about this. They will probably be very understanding on what ever desision you make.

Answer 17

its up to you.

its not their life its yours. if you feel comfortable with meeting her then meet her. if you feel like you'd rather not meet her than avoid her and go on with your life.

Answer 18

if you want to meet her meet her. but if you don't don't .it is your decision

Answer 19

Pick one to go with.

Answer 20

go. meet her, she may love you.

Answer 21

pick one of them and go

Answer 22

it's up to u. how do u feel about it? if u want to meet her then go. i say go and ask her questions. like: why did u give me away? did u not want me? did u like me? it might be a good thing to meet her.

good luck!!