What should I do with my baby's father?

Question

We have been together for almost 4 years and have a 2 yr old baby, but not happy at least on my end... About a month ago I decided that I didn't want to be with him anymore but now I'm starting to feel guilty about leaving my daughter without a father even though he is going to be there for her. I really don't know what to do I've been wanting to be by my self for a while and thought that if we were not happy neither our baby. He is a good men with many good qualities but I'm not happy at all.

Answer 1

And why are you so unhappy? You need to find that out. Because, no matter whom you are with, If you don't know what has a bug up your butt now, it can happen again and again and again. It looks like the problem is YOU....perhaps you want unrealistic things going on in your life, or you have had too many dreams unfulfilled. He is a good man...maybe you don't feel good about yourself when with him...so what, you are not in love with him....move on. You child will not suffer, you said he will be a good Father, no matter what may happen? Right, Well, it seems you are just scared to move on your own. Just do it. Only you are responsible for making you happy. No one else.  

Answer 2

Dont feel guilty! File for child support!!

Answer 3

You should tell him what you need from him.  Remember how hard divorce can be for your daughter.  The grass is not always greener on the other side.  You have to work for your marriage to be good.  I think that you should try and make it work.  God Bless

Answer 4

If you raised your child well,,,,the child will understand as the baby grows up..kids are far more smarter than we think

Answer 5

If hes a good man then let him be a good parent to your child. Just because you let him be the father doesnt mean that you two have to be together.

Answer 6

Will you be happy raising your daughter on your own, struggling to make ends meet? Being a single mother?

Ask yourself "why aren't I happy", what has changed for you to get to the point of walking out of your relationship.

Answer 7

If he really is a good guy, ya might should hold on to him, theres not that many around. Try some counseling for yourself and dont bust up a family on a whim like that.

Answer 8

you need to really consider his feelings about this. It is easier for women to be on their own for some reason. But it is also very frustrating if you are the one in the relationship that wants it to be a "family unit" and your spouse wants to run their own life.  Maybe your partner would agree to a separation as long as you both share in the raising of your daughter (fairly) and also being that it is your choice you should agree to handle your own financial obligations and split custody.  It's very hard to be in a relationship when one person just plain doesn't want to be there. Keep the lines of communication very open and maybe it could work out for all of you. Good luck.