What should I do with my ex? please help ?

Question

I have a question about relationship.

my ex and I broke up 2 years ago ( I know, like all other stories =) ) .

He left me for another woman. I was left heart broken and I thought that was the end of the world.

it took me a very long time to get where I am now , I am still single, and I do admit I think of him everyday still.

I still think of him in every song I listen or romance moives that I watched.

between these 2 years, I still talked to him from time to time.

at first, I was the one who kept contacting him and hoping maybe he would change his mind again and realised that he 'd loss the best thing in his life.

( he was still with that chick, when I first started contacting with him )

later on, I realised it wasn't do me any good so I forced myself to distance him and meanwhile , tried to get my life back on track.

he wrote me emails or called me from time to time. sometimes I answered, sometimes I don't.

cuz' to be honest, i was still mad at him for the way he put me through.

but I do admit , he still on my mind everyday .

sometimes I do got worry maybe I will be single forever.

around this year, he broke up with that chick ( I remember he said he 'd never loved anyone as much as he loved me , and I believe that is true, cuz' he didn't seem to be very into that chick )

he wanted to see me and meet me up. I refused ( we were only talking via emails ) , I explained to him that I couldn't trust him and I was afraid that my heart will get broken again .

He still contacted me, write me emails from time to time.

I don't answer every single of his emails , but I do read every emails written from him, i even saved it in a folder .

so you see, I 'd never gotten over him.

yesterday I 'd received an email from him, here is what he wrote

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From: Him

Sent: Monday, August 25, 2008 8:53:19 AM

To: Me

alright, you win .

I'm not gonna bother you anymore. I only contact you for selfish reasons anyway (because it makes me happy to talk with you, you are a kind and funny familiar part of my life).

I didn't mean to cause you any pain or make anything harder for you. I wish there was something I could have done for you, or that you could have relied on me for something and i could have helped or something.

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I don't know what to do anymore. I still miss him and I do admit I still love him. but what does he want from me and I really cannot go through the whole break up thing again.

Please help me and give me some advise , thanks

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Answer 1

We can't tell you what he wants but it is obvious you want him... send what you just wrote to him and things will work out the right way.

Answer 2

you want him back

Answer 3

I don't have the reference handy, but if I recall correctly it is over 70% of people that break-up return to the relationship once again, to only recall the reason it ended in the first place. What happens on the return "visit" is you are more observable of the differences in goals and conflicting personality.

Consider killing your current email and change phone numbers and address, not to give your ex the changes, find new friends/hobby/go back to school or learn a new sport or go to a new gym. These activities will help you focus on a future that is more positive and without him.  If you are still having deep emotional issues you may want to see a therapist to help deal with them in a positive manner.  

Answer 4

time to cut all ties with this dude because you can do so much better without him. you want to move on with your life, however there is a dead weight holding you back. time to let it go. this person cannot make up their mind and if they loved you to begin with, they wouldn't have left to begin with.

the best thing to do is cut all communication and start your life afresh. take up a new sport or hobby, make some new friends or hang out with your current ones. (but if you have mutual friends with the ex, attempt to avoid these people as well, in hopes of starting your new life on the right foot).

however should you decide to give it another try with him, be cautious and attempt to lay it down that previous behaviours will not be tolerated and any further abuse of trust will result in a swift kick in the rear end, out the front door.

be cautious in your decisions and i hope that you will be happy in the future