What should I do?Tone it down?!

Question

Ugh,I'm like so sad right now cause I just came back from a club with a bunch of friends,and my bestest friend is really mad at me!So this is the story,my friend Lexi and I have been best friends for like 9 years now,but there's a problem.ppl around us joke on how we're complete opposite cause I'm skinny and like to dress s**y,but not skimpy.While Lexi,is on the large size and covers up a lot.So at the club,me,Lexi and a couple of our girlfriends were dancing when these group of guys came up to us.And this one guy me and Lexi recognized from the group came up to us and it was Lexi's first guy that she loved,but he rejected her in HS.She told me she didn't care he was there,and just wanted to have fun.a few hours later,he asked me to dance while Lexi was getting a drink,I was unsure,but before I could say no,he pulled me off my seat and litterally grabbed me to dance with him.He always had the crush on my in HS,but I never returned those feelings for him because of what he did to my friend.So,while I was trying to pull away,Lexi showed up&&pushed him out of the way and started telling me how she wishes I wasn't so eassy and all that bad stuff.She left and pushed me away.So for hours,I tried calling her and all,but she won't pick up.Dammit,I feel bad,but I really have no one to talk to and want to know your guys' opinion if what I should do.Hekka drama today tho=/

Answer 1

drama, drama, drama.  Listen, if your friend is your friend, she needs to get over it.  It's not like you slept with this guy.  And even if you do, it's not like this guy wants your friend anyway.  Her feelings are her own, and you were a friend by trying to ignore him in HS since you thought he did something wrong to your friend.  But you're not a kid anymore - it's time for people to grow up.  Your friend may be hurt, but she can't expect you to ignore every guy that doesn't want her - that would be a lot of guys.

All you can do is explain yourself and wait to see if she'll answer.  If not, she may be the drama in your life you really don't need anyway.  It's time for people just turning adults to act like adults.  Life goes on - relationships happen and friends should support that, not criticize or whine about it.

Answer 2

You just explain the situation to her when she cooled down. That you didn't even want to dance with him. A friendship of 9 years standing is not so easily ruined that one misunderstanding like this would end it. I don't know why she is mad. Sooner or later it will happen that you meet a guy whom you may like and it is normal then that you will spend time with him but a good friend does understand that and should be encouraged to do the same. Even if she is a bit heavier and therefore looks different, that doesn't mean she will never find a BF, it will be a guy who also looks for other things apart from who she dresses. As you did not want to dance with this guy however, anyhow, you just give her time to cool down and then explain what happened. Maybe she is insecure that nobody asks her to dance and that makes her feel sensitive. That is also why she covers up. Just talk to your friend and set the situation straight.. just tell it as you told it here and she will understand it.  If you are going out after all you want to dance. Maybe she wanted to help you out there and thought this guy was threatening you as you seemed to want to pull away and she felt you were in danger and that is why she came between the two of you because she thought her friend, you, is being forced to dance with this guy against your will so just tell her what happened and it will be alright as soon as she had a little time to calm down and think.. xx

Answer 3

You flubbed.  The only thing you can do is apologize.  Hopefully Lexi can be a little forgiving.