What should I give as a wedding gift to a couple that said they do not want gifts?

Question

I was invited to a wedding in which the wedding couple stated on their invite "no gifts, your presence is gift enough." I still want to get them something very small as a gift (I feel funny going to a wedding and not bringing some sort of gift in return). But I also want to spend very little, so that when they say to me "we told you not to give us a gift," I can say, "Oh, come on, it really isn't much, don't worry, it was just something simple I wanted to get you." So, what is that simple item I can give them?

Answer 1

I'd just give them a card that you took time to write something very meaningful in.

I was one of those "no gifts" brides and I truly didn't want anything since my husband and I were in our 30s and already well established with 2 households of furniture and everything else to merge.  We got lots of picture frames and "stuff" that we didn't need.

Perhaps a gift card to a restaurant you know they like or some kind of house-warming type gift?

Answer 2

They really do mean no gifts.  If you must do something, perhaps you could donate to a charity that is close to their hearts.  Do you know if either has a family member affected by cancer - give to a cancer charity.  Do they own any pets - give to the LOCAL animal shelter (NOT US Humane Society, that does not benefit local animal shelters as the name implies) or to their breed's specific rescue group.

You could put something in the card along the lines of "passing your joy along."

Answer 3

You can frame their invitation, so that they have a keepsake. It's not expensive and it will be something I am sure they will cherish.

Answer 4

don't get them anything then. it's what they asked for.. literally.

Answer 5

You could do a bottle of wine or something for them to drink on their honeymoon.

Get them a really cute but inexpensive wedding picture frame.  Or if you are very close with them and they have the humor, give them a picture of yourself so they will always be "gifted with your presence"  lol

You could just do a gift card to a place like bed bath and beyond, or other home store or just money.  You can never go wrong with money.

Answer 6

A gift card for when they go to the honeymoon

Answer 7

A bottle of wine for them to enjoy alone.

Answer 8

No gifts means NO GIFTS

Answer 9

They wouldn't have specifically asked for no gifts if they didn't mean it!  Just give them a card, or maybe find out a favorite charity of theirs and make a small donation.

Answer 10

I'd do a nice card with a gift card in it. Something small, but with gas prices the way they are I'm sure they'd appreciate it.

Answer 11

A bottle of wine, a couple wine glasses. A picture frame or photo album. A coffee table book that reflects their interests or the city where they live. A set of fun cake pans or cookie cutters.

Answer 12

Just bring a card.  They don't want or need anything.

Answer 13

A nice bottle of wine or champaign. Or make a donation on their behalf to a cause they'd support.

Answer 14

Give them a Card!

Answer 15

Just do as they ask, there's no reason to feel "funny" about it.  My husband and I requested no gifts when we were married also.  Some people brought gifts anyway and THAT made US feel "funny".

Answer 16

If it makes you feel better stick a $10 gift card to a video store inside the greeting card you get them so it won`t be obvious you brought a gift to a no-gift wedding and you won`t feel like you came empty handed. Or make them something and send it to the house.

Answer 17

When a couple specifies that they do not want gifts, please honor their request. They have their reasons for not wanting gifts and that should be respected.

If you feel you must do something, it's always a nice gesture to make a contribution to one of their favorite charities in honor of their marriage.

Hope this helps!

Answer 18

A card with a heartfelt message.

If you want to do something, make a donation to a charity that they support, or arrange to have a tree planted in their honor.

Answer 19

i think you should just get a card and instead of a giftcard, just put cash into the card. not alot. but who would say no to that?

& it will be extra cash on thier honeymoon

Answer 20

A holiday ornament with their names and/or wedding date on it.  Just do a search on personalized holiday ornaments.

A gift certificate to Sunday Brunch at a local restaurant.

A gift certificate to a local movie theater.

A gift certificate to an Italian restaurant or pizza parlor or oriental restaurant.

A gift certificate to a well known and well stocked grocery store with a note that says . . Treat yourself to a great steak!

A new cookbook.

A gift certificate to a home or garden center with a note . . "Buy a tree" (or blooming bush or some flowers).

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Answer 21

You shouldn't feel "funny" honoring their wishes - when they ask for "no gifts", your best gift is honoring their request! Just have fun at the wedding.

P.S. A lot of people seem to suggest a bottle of wine - but not everyone drinks wine. Neither my husband nor I drink wine, but people keep bringing us wine when they come over to visit (I keep telling them not to bring anything) - and, honestly, I can't get rid of these wine bottles fast enough, they end up accumulating in the cupboard. My guess would be, the couple really means it when they ask for no gifts.

Answer 22

there may be another reason they don't want gifts. maybe they are traveling after the wedding and don't want to be bringing lots of gifts with them?

i would just get them a card

Answer 23

I know how you feel, but I'd really say honor thier request.  Other guests will then feel funny that they didn't bring something as well.

Answer 24

A bottle of locally bottled wine and a box of chocolates... you could spend less than $20 and it's a nice gesture.  I'd want to give something little too.  I've love wine and chocolate any day!