What should I include in an after break up letter?

Question

I want to write a letter to tell the person how I felt and would like to explain everything to her. I have too many things to say. Admittedly, I would want to undo our breakup, but this is not a begging to get back letter. I accept the outcome. How should I write it?

Answer 1

Writing a letter is iffy, but if the situation calls for it, then yes, I would write it. Some people express themselves better in writing, and I don't feel it is cowardly if it is only done once in awhile. You will get to a point where you should communicate in person with someone when there is conflict, but if the relationship is over and you feel you need closure, then go for it.

I would be honest, but respectful. I wouldn't go into too many details either. Not knowing the situation, I can only give examples. Say she cheated on you. Tell her she hurt you and you've accepted the break up (especially if it was your idea). Don't go on about all the feelings you went through and don't call her names. If for example you cheated on her, again, be honest. Apologize for your actions, tell her you understand why she broke up with you, and tell her if she ever wants to talk about it, you're there. Don't go into details, make excuses, or worse imply it was her fault.

Answer 2

To tell you the truth- I'd scrap the whole letter idea if I were you- it's really tacky- she could use it to make fun of you to her friends or anything.  A letter kinda shows cowardice as well, if you have something to say to her just say it to her, or even phone her if you're not comfortable saying it to her face.  If it helps write down the points you wanna say before you phone her so you don't get flustered. I can't really tell you what to say, not knowing the whole situation, but you just need to be honest, and spill your guts. She'll appreciate it more and think more highly of you because of it.  

Answer 3

Tell her the truth, the whole truth. She may very well still be in love with you and want you back, but also be refraining herself. I bet you two are in the same boat. Take it from me, I want my ex back as well, but I'd never tell him. The difference is that he ended things with me, and it's pretty obvious he has moved on. I make it seem as though I have as well, which in many ways is a fact. Love wise, it's inaccurate.

Women are different than men. They are much more easily persuaded by feelings of love and romance. Typically, when a guy moves on, his heart is out of it months before he leaves.

Please do me, yourself, and he a favor by putting it all out on the line and seeing where things may go. You might be pleasantly surprised.