What should I say to my bestfriend?

Question

my friend is changing for some girl that " only wants to be friends " he's overweight so he hasn't eaten for like 4straight days. I love him because of his " I don't give a fxck attitude " but he's changing a lot. Wut shuld I tell him?

btw, I went out with his brother, so me and him are juss really close. & we never ARGUE and outta nowhere we do.

& im a girl .

Help.

Answer 1

My best friend is overweight.  I just drove 200 miles to see him just so we can cook (healthy) together.  He doesn't give a fxck either.

In your shoes I would say, "sudden weight loss is not healthy, i worry about you because I love you as a best friend.  If people who truly love each other can wait a while for the other person to get in shape, surely people who only want to be friends can do it too."

If that doesn't work, then I'd pull out the big guns and say:

"Not giving a fxck is much more attractive than physical beauty."

Oi!

Good luck!

Answer 2

sorry

Answer 3

Lol.. kind of odd to love someone for a "I don't give a fxck attitude", no?

Why do you fight him? Perhaps you are worried that he is setting himself up for a disappointment and can express that. Maybe you are afraid of losing him as a friend.  In the mean time, aside from hurting himself with a crash diet, the positive motivation he has to change himself for the better is likely a good thing.  If he needs space, you may need to give it to him.

Answer 4

Well maybe you should just be straight up with him. Meet up somewhere, like the mall or at the movies, and just talk about all of the stuff that's going on.

Answer 5

tell him to be himself he can't change for some girl if she requires him to change tell him to get rid of her. I don't change for any one if a girl likes me it's just me not trying to be some one else.

Answer 6

tell him what you told us, that you love him the way he is and he's your best friend and you are worried about him.

Answer 7

well tell him dont change for this girl bcuz if shes changing him...she dosent like who he TRULY is.  

Answer 8

I'ts clear you have deep feelings for him, but as his friend, you need to accept he has to make his own path and his own mistakes.  That is the mark of not just a friend, but of the best kind of friend.  You are right to tell him when you are really concerned that what he is doing is destructive to his health.  However, I don't think 4 days of food deprivation is much of a hunger strike or a battle with anorexia.  This obviously hasn't been a pattern in his life and may just be a physical reaction to this big crush he has.  People react differently to strong emotions, and this may not be him trying to crash diet but just that emotion taking over and squelching the desire to eat.  If it continues, and he clearly exhibits unhealthy weightloss tactics over the course of weeks (2 or  3) not half a week, then step up and express your concern.  It's likely that his eating habits will return to more normal after the surge of emotion cools a bit.  Four days is not enough time to mark real change.   This sounds like you might be a bit hurt by his attentions turning toward her, that he might not be acting very considerately toward you, and that either you don't like sharing him (completely natural) or your own feelings about him might run deeper than you are admitting.  Before you try to fix or change him, do some soul searching.  Put yourself in his place and think about how you'd want him to act if he were you.  Would you really want him to make an issue if you went on a 4 day crash diet and accuse you of changing drastically, or would you want some understanding?