What should I say to my friend who has a crush on me?

Question

he is my best friend, besides my bf, and he really likes me. But I love my bf, and I don't feel the same way. My friend has so much in common with me, he is like me in a male body, lol. I have been friends with him for three or four years, and he never said anything, but all of a sudden last year, when I told him that I have a boyfriend, he told me that he likes me, and that I should break up with my boyfriend, and insinuated to go with him instead. I've been with my bf for a while, and my heart is set on him. And I was in shock when my friend told me he felt this way a while ago, so I didn't say much. I can tell that he still likes me, and I don't feel comfortable hanging out with him outside of school, because I feel that that is disrespectful to my boyfriend. What do you think?

Answer 1

have you told your boyfriend? If not then I think you like him too.

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation, only my boyfriend knew that my best friend liked me before I did.  Lol.  Let him know that you respect his feelings but can only see him in a platonic way.  Also include that you are with the person you want to be with.  If he doesn't respect this, that may become a problem in the future so be cautious not to converse with him privately.  Just be honest with him without being cruel and hopefully he'll be a true friend and respect your wishes.

Answer 3

Well, you might just want to tell him that you're happy in the relationship your in. Just tell him, you only think of him as a friend for now, but maybe later in life you might think of him differently. But most importantly, you want to stay friends with him.

Answer 4

You should tell him how you feel.Tell him that you just want to be friends and only friends if hes really your friend then he should understand. But you don't have to stop hanging out with him just because of that. You can still be friends. Don't let that ruin a good friendship and don't make him regret telling you about his feelings for you.  

Answer 5

i think it's really important that you talk to him honestly about this. i know it'll be awkward, especially as there's strain on your relationship already, but you say he's your best friend and he obviously cares about you - tell him he needs to accept the fact that you love him as a person and a friend but nothing more than that. he should respect the fact that you're with someone else and it's not just a casual thing; he should never have told you to break up with your boyfriend. if he really cares about you, he'll want you to be happy even if it isn't with him. make sure you let him know that he's important to you and you don't want to lose the relationship you have with him.

you can still hang out with him outside of school - it's not disrespectful to your boyfriend for you to have male friends.

good luck! x

Answer 6

I think you should tell your best friend that you don't have the same feelings and hopefully it will all turn out great.

Answer 7

I suppose your boyfriend wud not be happy wiv u hanging out wiv this boy if he knew the boy had feeling for u.  Put urself in your boyfriend's shoes wud u like him hanging out wiv a girl who u knew liked him.

If your friend is cool wiv just being FRIENDS wiv u then u cud still hang out wiv him as long as ur boyfriend is there too.  However if he is getting jealous and trying to persuade u to dump ur boyfriend it is unhealthy for u to hang around wiv him.

Tell him u will be his friend BUT that is as far as it goes if he is not ok wiv that then u are well shot of him anyway.