What should I say to my husband?

Question

For over two months, my husband had been quite vocal about his desire to see me sleep with a black man, preferably his co-worker. He purchased a ton of interracial p**n where black men were having sexual intercourse with Latin women (I'm Mexican) in an attempt, I guess, to get my wheels turning. Well, I eventually agreed. Since then, however, I have grown attached to my new lover. I love my husband as he is in control of my heart and mind. My lover, on the other hand, has complete control of my body. My husband no longer wishes for me to engage in this activity, however I do not want to stop. How do I tell him this?

Answer 1

Be honest with him!!

Answer 2

You are no longer really a wife now are you? You're just a s*x toy of a sick deviant. Why not just sell your services on the street at this point? You both got exactly what you deserved.

Answer 3

  Your husband is a fool for wanting you to sleep with another man. That's just wrong. Marriage is sacred and things backfire when people don't use their best judgement.

If you like to sleep with your lover than do it. Your husband has made this bed now he has to lie in it.

You can simply tell him "once you go black, you don't come back"

Answer 4

>mr p: no, the Black man dug the hole!

Seriously though, these are the consequences of getting involved in some foolishness like this.

Answer 5

you dig a hole, you must lie in it

Answer 6

You need to let him read what you wrote to us.

Answer 7

your posting is exactly why people should not indulge in "threesomes" in the married setting.  something like this happens more often than not.  your husband was stupid to have ever opened this pandora's box in your marriage.  you should have never agreed and told him to hit to hit the road if he couldn't live without this indulgence.  sounds to me like your hubby picked up on your feelings for his coworker and that's why he wants to put the kabash on the extracurricular s*x.  problem is, he let the devil out of the gate and now he has to deal with it.  

what's this about your husband controlling your mind?  you should be the only one that controls your mind.  why would your husband want to see you with black men so bad?  or any man for that reason?  you sure that he's not secretly g*y, as i would kinda wonder.  i know why the coworker did it.  he got to shag his friend's wife legitamitely.  why would your husband want this?  you need to cease all contact with the coworker if you want to work on saving your marriage, because you can't be in love with two people...that doesn't work long term.

Answer 8

Adultery is a sin.

-Hebrews 13:4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

-Romans 1:26

Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones.

-Romans 1:27

In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

-Ephesians 4:19

Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.

-Colossians 3:5

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

-1 Peter 4:3

For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do—living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing and detestable idolatry.

-1 Corinthians 6 - Sexual Immorality

12"Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13"Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."[b] 17But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit.

18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Answer 9

sounds to me like he kind of pushed you into something,obviously not thinking of what consequences my arise from it.. but you did agree.

Answer 10

You never should have agreed, but you are only married to one of them.