What should I say to my mom if anything?

Question

I dunno what to say to my mom. She and my family are Christians, but I don't really believe in it but I go to church basically so I won't be the black sheep of the family and to make my mom happy. But I get nothing out of going to church or praying because I don't believe in it. How can I tell my mom? Or should I even tell her?

I'm 19 by the way. I'm so scared because if I'm not Christian then I'm going to h**l, according to Christianity and that's what my mom believes. I don't want her thinking that I'm going to h**l, but I don't even believe in it... what should I do?

And please don't tell me to be Christian or atheist.

Answer 1

Yes! You have a mind of your own. Sadly but still true, most Americans are cultural religious people. It is part of the American culture, and most go to church because its the jump on the bandwagon.

Most Americans really dont ponder life at all. Its just: work, raise kids, go to school to get a better job etc, and most people wish to live a good life and continue living a better life even after death, thats why so many are attracted to Christianity and wat to believe in a god because they wish for a happy ending. But you have enough courage and self intelligence to be one of the few who openly express your beliefs, despite the opposition of your own family.

It would be a very enlightening experience to watch THE FIRST 30 MINS of this video when u have the time. It is about governmental conspiriacy, but the first 30 mins is about how the religion Christianity came to be. I am a history fanatic in highschool and can testifiy that everything the man says about the religion section is historically true. He isnt making anything up and its not based on opinion. Just facts. If this helped you, please add in your extended details that it did, if not, or if u dont care to watch it, just say so:

http://www.zeitgeistmovie.com/main.htm

Answer 2

Not believing in the one who made you who are is something you will deal with later on in life.  Now, the relationship you and your mother have must be sacred.  Remember she carried you for nine months and cares about all decisions and concerns that come up in your life.  Some people don't have the opportunity to embrace the relationship you have in front of you.  Respect your mother by not just going through the motions with her.  Imagine life without the love and care of this woman who for lack of a better statement brought you into the world.  Remember what your mother taught you, honesty is the best policy.  And last but not least for your own sake just listen.

Answer 3

I honestly feel you on this.  I had grown up in church my WHOLE life and when I graduated high school and went to college, I didn't want anymore of it.  I didn't really get into church that much becuase I felt like everything was so restrictve and God was some guy that loves you but will kill you if you don't believe in Him or His Son.  Naw, I didn't want anymore of that.  However, the older I got, I wanted to find something either spiritual or natural to grasp and I found that is wasnt' that GOD that was the problem, it was some Christians makes him out to be this scary dude.  I did go back to church but I found what I need NOT , not what my mother religion had trained me to be.  Find out who your are and eventually you will be lead to where you need to be.

Answer 4

maybe you shouldn't tell her but if i were you i would watch joel osteen he's a great preacher who helps you to understand why your feeling the way you do. I kinda went through the same thing i still don't have a religion right now but i know i believe in god and joel can help you as well!

Answer 5

I actually left my strict baptist family's home when I was 19 and it was the best thing I ever did. I believe in God, and the Bible, but I have no use for church and its hypocrisies. Now, my parents didn't speak to me for 3 months, but they got over it, and now its a non-issues. Looking back though, I'm so proud of my decision. So my advice based on experience is tell your mom. You are an adult, and you CAN live your own life!! Good luck!

Answer 6

You are confused right now.

Do not dwell on this and I am sure on day in your future your insight on all of this will change for the better.

But hopefully not before it is too late.

Sweetie, tomorrow is not guaranteed to anyone, not you, your parents or anyone you know. You need to make the best of the life you have here now and if you are just trying to be different, reconsider it.

Answer 7

A person can't make themselves believe something.  It takes faith and conviction.  Just because you don't believe in what everyone else believes doesn't necessarily mean you're going to h**l; nor does it classify you as athiest or anti-Christian.  I wouldn't be so quick to categorize yourself, nor would I let others do it for you.  You are an individual and you're entitled to your own beliefs without conforming to what others believe or don't believe.  You're only 19 and you may develop your beliefs as you get older and more mature (not that you're immature).  Give yourself time and do some research.  Talk to the clergy at your church and express to him/her what you're going through.  If he/she is a good clergyperson then they won't judge you or tell you what to believe.  They'll be supportive and perhaps give you some guidance.  If that doesn't work then look elsewhere.  The most devout Christian can be a prick.  An athiest can be the most kind hearted person you'll ever meet.  And vice versa.  There is no rule that says you have to believe in anything.  Just be content in being a good person.  Structured religion isn't for everyone.  Look around, see if there is anything that you put your faith into.  If not, then do what makes you happy.  You'll be fine.  Good luck.

Answer 8

Well for your own piece of mind you should read up on different religions and come up with an idea of spirituality that works for you.  Forget what your family and others think.  Everyone has their own connection to God and its different for everyone.

At your age- your belief (or disbelief) is growing and developing- take your time and be open to new things.  

PS your not going to h**l !

Answer 9

i'm sure what your mom believes is this . . . if you die without accepting Jesus Christ as your personal savior then yes, you will go to h**l.  You will not go to h**l just because you don't go to Church.

Apparently if you are scared, then you do believe.  You may consider visiting another Church that maybe suits you better