What should I say to tell my mom I self injure?

Question

I am going to write my mom a letter to tell her. It is going to get out of control if I don't get help. Any ideas on how I should write it or what I should say?

This is really hard and I don't want it to come across the wrong way, because I'm not suicidal, I just cut to calm down. Please don't be immature because it's a serious problem and I am desperate for help.

Answer 1

you really need some help,especially from a psychologist.you should go there and seek some counseling...its really not normal at all to injure yourself just to calm yourself..tell your mom right away..it should be in person rather than writing to her...of all people she's the one who could understand you the most

Answer 2

This is not a subject I've ever dealt with.I think going to your mom is a good idea.She will be shocked at first but eager to help.She has unconditional love for you.You are very brave for taking the first step to improve yourself.As far as what to say,just be honest.Try to make it as easy on her too.I think I'm going to leave my answer as is now.Good luck and God bless and when you need to calm down just remember this.

When life gets hard and troubles arise,just fall to your knees and look up with your eyes.The Lord is there to guide you through and let's you know how much he loves you.So when it hurts and no body is there,just remember he always cares.In your heart he surrounds your soul,eternal life's promise the ultimate goal.God Bless  

Answer 3

I would just say that you have a problem and you realized it and need some help. Let her know how you feel, let her know it's difficult for you to tell her that. It's great that you're seeking help, and I'm sure she's going to be happy for it. Just let her know how you feel though.

Answer 4

just really explain yourself.  like u said.  u cut whenever u have anxiety it seems like.  and u don't know how calm yourself down without cutting.  and your cutting is getting more and more out of control and i need help to stop doing this.  or maybe u also cut bc ur in so much pain emotionally that the physical pain is a good substitute bc the phsycial pain relieves the emotional pain.  i think u should see a psychiatrist.  

Answer 5

I know how you feel i was in the same situation well not Hope me as in Jessica lol anyway...uhm i would just tell her that in a very calm and gentile way my dad was very understanding about it he told me that he would get me help and that he loved me and that was all i wanted to hear in your situation i'd just come out and say it say

Mom,

I need your help but as your daughter i need you to try to help and understand me. I have been cutting lately and i realize that it is getting out of hand and that i need help can you please help me

then im sure that she cares enough to get you the help that you need my dad did and i'm sure you mom will understand and help you.

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Hey, it's Hope. That was my friend Jessica, and this is my account. She's my best friend. I'm sure you have a best friend that you can talk to. I'm sorry she's not Jessica, but you can't have her cuz she's mine. (Kidding.... although of course she IS mine... so, not kidding.. whatever.)

Anyways, I hope this all works out for you dear, and I hope that your mom understands like Jessica's dad did. At least you realize that it's a big deal, and I'm very proud of you for wanting help. Good girl.

All our love,

Jessica and Hope

Answer 6

talk to your mom asap. she might act upset, but that's just a natural reaction of tons of feelings mixed together. but, she will help you. just start by talking to your mom. i would tell you to stop, but i know, it's not that easy. cutting is actually a mental illness, and your mom needs to find you help. it might seem scary at first to tell her, but in the long run, you'll be very glad you did. please, just tell your mom. like, now. sooner=better. i hope i helped.

Answer 7

See if you can get your counselor at school to bring your mom in for a meeting with the two of you. She's much less likely to freak out there than she is at home, and there will be a rational adult right there in the room to explain what cutting is about and what it's not. Oh my goodness, does that help!

I don't have kids, but I don't freak out about cutting as much since the counselor I worked with the last time I worked in a school explained it to me.

OK, frankly, it still freaks me out, and I don't understand it at all, but I can be much calmer about it because she's calm about it, and she seems to know what she's doing.

Answer 8

Can you tell your mom in person instead of writing a letter?  I would definitely say that you realized you have a problem and you need help, like the first responder said, and also try saying that you started doing this after feeling like _____, and you have noticed it's gotten worse.  That you are not suicidal, but that you use it as an outlet so you release the pain you are feeling inside by being able to focus on something outside.  That you have realized that you are afraid something serious will happen.  And that you're ready for treatment.  

Good luck.  

Answer 9

Just sit her down and tell her.  Make sure she knows the reasons for your actions, and that you are ready to get help.  In the meantime, here are some sites that may help you:

http://www.vinland.org/scamp/institute/d...

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injur...

http://www.vinland.org/scamp/institute/h...

Answer 10

your mom loves you. all moms love their children. and your mom always will especially when it comes to trying times. she will understand and definatly appreciate the fact that you recognize that you need to get help.

here are some suggestions:

be simple. and tell her you are telling her because you know what your doing and that it should be stopped. ask her to be understanding. i would definatly emphasize that you love her and you dont want to let this continue. and i would explain what you said about not being suicidal and its how you deal with stress.

hopefully you can find a better way to deal with stress. ive been slowly learning that. i know what your going through. good luck!! i know your family will be there for you!