What should I say(ill answer a ? for you if you READ)? HELP!?

Question

So, I am a military wife, and I have been so miserable lately. You know that tv show on MTV called the Hills? Well, basically that is my life....only with MORE drama! I know, that's pretty sad!

Anyway, I hate it, and I dont know how else to get rid of it other than to stop talking and hanging out with the people I call my so called friends. Actually, they aren't really friends.

There are three girls that I know, but two of the are the worst!

One girl is 18, she has two kids, and wants another one next year. Her husband is terribly disrespectful and narrow minded. They are really dirty, and brag a lot. Out of all the girls I was the most close to her. She came to me for advice a lot, but it got out of control. When she calls me she talks for over an hour at a time, and tells me her whole life plan. She hasn't graduated high school yet, so she tells me about how she is going to college soon and this and that. She is a HUGE drama queen though, takes almost everything personally, and loves a good arguement.

Now, this other girl I know.She was the first mil wife I met. Well, I got a bad vibe from her from the start. When I first saw her I was wearing a sundress and she rolled her eyes at me and looked me up and down. I told her I was in college, and she rolled her eyes. She said she did everything she needed to do by graduating HS and working at Target. Now she babysits at home, and has one kid. Well, she complains about everyone and eveything. She told me all about how horrible this other girl was(the one I talked about first), and how nasty they are. Well, things got out of control and we all found out about how everyone was talking behind backs. Well, I got the blame for some reason. This was a while ago. Well, there have been a few fights since then also. The second girl told the first girl how she hates her husband and all this, and even the first girls husband got pissed off. They keep talking about how they never want to speak to them again. Well, I was getting really tired of the drama, and immaturity so I sort of stopped talking to the first girl for a little bit. They invited us to dinner one night and I didnt want to go(her husband always cons mine into buying him alchoil and he is underage), so since we said NO, they went with the other couply that they said they hated!

Now, they are acting buddy buddy and it makes no sense to me. Even though the first girl still complains about the second, and I know the second one still dislikes her as well. I think they are trying to make me jealous for some reason, but Im just to the point to where I want nothing to do to them?

Answer 1

I am in the military and you sound educated.  My wife and I got married in our mid 20's its funny how you said the hill, because she if from laguna beach, but any ways I am going to tell from what I have seen in my 13yrs in the military.  There are alot of low class people in the millitary and just don't know how to act.  Plus there is the age, most of them are still in there teens and don't know what the world is about.  What you need to do is not get all caught up in there drama.  That is what they want.  They are enscure with thier lives that they feel threaten by you.  You have you act together and they don't so the only way they can deal with that is to try to put you down to thier level.  Just don't feed into it and just find some new friends.  I hope this helps.

Answer 2

You don't need to say anything. Back away and find some new friends in the mean time when they call or want to buddy buddy tell them that you are busy with something else that they could not have any interest in. You should not have to explain your life to a "friend"