What should I tell a friend who asks for favours everyday?

Question

I have a great friend who keeps asking me for favours. "Dude, could you download timberlakes new song on your mobile phone by tmrw?" Music downloads, novels, magazines, food. Its getting tiring now but whenever I have that thought I feel guilty because my family is relatively well-off financially and my friend has a very strict parents. But that doesn't stop me from thinking i've been taken advantage of, especially since I'm a unassuming. How can tell her 'no' without hurting my oldest friend? Am I ungrateful? She has lots of other friends but they all respect her for her intelligence.and kindness. She's taken up the role of being my protector because I'm quite and dont "speak up for myself"--another thing I dislike.

Answer 1

Say, dude, I can't keep doing this for you.  

Straight, short, and to the point. No matter how nice she is, don't be her slave. You have your own life. If she was as nice as you say, she would understand that, period.

Answer 2

I have a similar dilemma. :) I love this friend of mine to death, but it just bothers me when she asks me for money, says she'll pay me back, but never does (she doesn't get allowance, and sometimes she has no lunch to eat). She also asked food from and ended up finishing most all of it that I hardly got to eat it myself (and I loved those cookies!). I know I'm supposed to share, but I'm not overflowing with money and food either. The thing is, though I'm about to offer you advice, I haven't done anything with MY dilemma yet; I just try to avoid her asking me. But maybe we can do this together! :) First, make sure that she's actually still your friend, and she doesn't only stay with you because she knows she can ask you for favors. The next time she asks you for a favor, tell her that you're sorry, but you just can't do it anymore because she has to be considerate to you as well - talk to her. Just tell her how you feel about all the favors. It is definitely a lot easier to say than to do, but if you don't do something about it, you're never going to completely get rid of your problems.

If she's really as good as a friend you say she is, she'll understand. If she doesn't, I guess it's time to move on. It's very painful, yes, but everything happens for a reason - a good reason. You never know, good things may happen in the end. I fought with one of my best friends a few years back and we ended up hating one another. But we eventually learned to accept each other again, and eventually became really good friends again.

It's your choice. I wish you luck. :D

It's so long. Sorry. =))

Answer 3

SAY NO.

or

Start asking favours from her, she immediately withdraws.

Why do you want such problematic friend?

Answer 4

Say I Cant download things anymore because my mum blocked the download websites.

or simply say i cant im busy or you could just say ...

NO DO IT YOUR SELF!