What should I tell her to do??

Question

My friend had been married for about 2 1/2 years and her husband had cheated on her once and she has never really trusted him since. He still talks about the girl that he cheated on her with. Well he wants to move to georgia to live with his family (part lives here and part lives in GA) but none of her friends or family live in GA and they will have to live in his sisters house (now they live in their own house). She has tried to live in GA b4 and hated it. She has told him that she doesn't want to move and this has become a HUGE thing in their life and they argue about it all the time. She is a stay at home mom and when they get into it he always tells her to get out of his house and puts her down really really bad and has choked her twice. When she tries to leave he starts crying and says that he loves her and that he just has a bad temper.She doesn't care anymore about their relationship she always says that she wishes that he would cheat on her again so she would have a reason to leave him.The only reason she hasn't left him is because they have a 2 year old son!! Do you think that their is any hope in their relationship? What should I tell her to do??

Answer 1

Well relationships are about compromise - At the same time being in an abusive relationship is just dangerous. But if you are both adults and are able to work out the problems - if there is LOVE then I think maybe family counseling. A lot of people say some mean things when they mad - I have I'm sure other people have. I think if they both love eachother work on it - if there is more pain in the relationship then you can both leave the relationship- and find a better person for each of you. Also keep God first in your r'ship

Answer 2

how does she see herself being happy

Answer 3

Tell her this:

A child can not secure a relationship.

A child deserves to live in a happy home, and a child would grow up sad without her if he killed her.

Then tell her to start looking for resources to get out.

She can not afford to stay....

www.ndvh.org

Best wishes

Answer 4

He is abusive and her son will learn to be the same way, if he is around it. That is all the reason anyone needs to leave.