What should I tell my Dad?

Question

How can I tell my Dad I need to move in with him without telling him about my alcoholic stepdad. My parents are divorced and I live in NY with my mom and sister. My dad lives in MI with my stepmom. My sister and mom don't want to live in MI and she doesn't want me to go, but I am very sad in NY. It's not really my place and I miss my friends in MI. But I'm afraid my Dad will say no because he's kinda tight on money right now and he and my stepmom probably don't want to take care of a 15- year old. I can't tell him about my stepdad, but how can I get it across that I need to be there?

I wanted to move there last year but my mom said no, so I couldn't. Finally she gave in in December because she saw how much I wanted to go, but my Dad told me to finish the school year. He hasn't talked about me moving there for a while, and never brings it up. I visit him every summer but for some reason I couldn't this year, and I'm thinking its because he doesn't want me to live with him.

What should I do? I'm so depressed in ny. Just ANY way you know without telling him about my stepdad

Answer 1

ok, so u have finished the school year.... so say dad... the school year is finished can i some now? see what he says.... and if you have to i would say something that your not happy where you are... your scared yatta yatta yatta...... if he really loves you he will want to protect you...

Answer 2

I think your best bet is to bring it back up to your father...tell him how depressed you are in NY...explain to him that you're not happy there...and if he asks why, I think you should be honest with him and tell him about your step father...and how he is an alcoholic,  I think if your father heard that, he would be all for you moving out and back to MI.  But you definitely need to make it clear that your not wanting to move back to MI to be with friends (although that is a plus) its because your depressed and can't stand being around your step dad

Answer 3

I feel so sorry for you I wish I could help you but just try to explain the things to you dad so he can make arragnements for you,  I am sure he will you are his daughter after all

Answer 4

Sounds like you're stuck defending the wrong guy.  I don't see why you are so h**l-bent on moving in with someone who so clearly doesn't want you moving in.  Your father is not a father.  He is a man who had children and has left them to move on to another family.  If he gave two cares about you he would understand your plight and would move mountains to get you out.  A real father is someone who cares for their children, not someone who tells them to 'wait out the school year' when there are issues going on where they live.

I wish I had a magic ball that could take you where you want to go.  Unfortunately, I would suggest you either come clean about your step-dad's problem or you wait out the next 3 years until you can do what you want.

Good luck to you and just know that you are worth a lot more than your parents are giving.

Answer 5

I dont understand a few things.

1) he(dad) and my stepmom probably don't want to take care of a 15- year old

2)why wont you want to reveal your stepdad is a alcoholic.

First of all,why would your mom let you live in an environment with an alcoholic stepdad. I hope he doesnt do anything to hurt you.

If you really want to,tell everything,bout ur friends and your life bck in MI. But what about your mom and sis? You would be leaving them behind. You have to spare a thought for them. It is a difficult situation..think bout it,talk to your parents and problems can b resolved.

Answer 6

It concerns me that you feel that you can't be honest with your dad about your step dad. You also have a sister living with this man and your dad doesn't have a clue what is going on. You know, this is the time in your life that you are going to find out that there are some things that you are going to have to say or do that is fearful to you. Your dad needs to know the truth because this is where your relationship with him needs to go. Take care and Good Luck

Answer 7

I'm a bit confused as to why you can't tell him about your step-dad.  As a father, no matter how little money I had, I would want to know if my daughter was in a home with an alcoholic.  I can't think of any reason that I wouldn't want to know what was going on.  

I think that you should just tell him.  Write him a letter if you can't tell him face to face.

Answer 8

dont tell him ask him straight up and if not still ask him y not tell him you miss him  

Answer 9

discuss with ur dad with open mind.don't worry.