What should I tell my parents to convince them to lighten up on my curfew?

Question

I'm about to turn 18 September 2 and my curfew so far has been 11:30 and if I was getting home late it would be 12. Past 12 for them is non negotiable. I think that curfew is ridiculous for an 18 year old but my parents are stubborn and Dominican. Also I have never in the past done anything to lose their trust. I'm gonna go out when I want when I turn 18 anyways but I'd rather have them let me go out instead of having to rebel. I just need a lot of people's opinions on this so I can show them that they are going against the norm on this.

Answer 1

Sorry, you're not going to hear what you want from me.  I had the same curfew when I was your age.  Are you going to college in the fall, and if so, are you living with your parents?  If the answers are yes and no respectively, you have no reason to worry about your curfew.  If you are finishing high school in the fall, I think it's likely your mom and dad still see you as their dependent as well as a student, so I can't blame them for setting the curfew they did.

If this is really a big deal to you and you're going to be living with your parents for a while, sit down and have a conversation with them.  Don't be confrontational, and be willing to negotiate.  Explain to them that at 18, you're a legal adult, and while you understand you're still living under their roof rent free and that you appreciate what they do for you, it would be nice to have a little more freedom and get your curfew extended.  Maybe you can work a deal with them if they extend it for you (like be responsible for all the yard work?).  That approach works better than "gimme gimme."  You are not entitled to more freedom just because you're 18.  I know it doesn't seem like it now, but trust me, you might be an adult in the eyes of the law, but you truly do not know your head from your rear.  It will not behoove you to rebel either.

Answer 2

Honestly, that doesn't seem too bad really considering your not 18 yet. I don't really see the need to stay out that late. I can see spending the night at a friends house and staying up late, but your still living with your parents, therefore you live by their rules.

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with this curfew. They simply care for you.

When you are all grown up and living out on your own working, you can stay out all night if you want!

Answer 4

The way I see it is, it isn't really about "it's my house, my rules", it is more about if you live with other people, even your parents, you have to be respectful of them.  If you are coming and going at all times of the night, you're causing a disturbance and that really isn't fair.  While I agree with you that your parents should trust you, it still doesn't mean you should be out all hours of the night.  If the lifestyle you want to live doesn't jive with theirs, then you have to move out and find a roommate who shares your schedule.

Answer 5

You won't be able to tell them anything.  You will probably have to keep proving your trustworthiness to them instead.  I think that being 18 and starting college would be reason to extend your curfew, but that's just my opinion.  Is it possible for you to get any student housing at college?  It might seem like your parents are being unreasonable, but believe me that one day you will realize why they have set such limits on you.  They just want to keep you safe!!  Good luck with this!

Answer 6

I hate to say it but it is their house and their rules. Maybe you can talk about getting it extended for certain things (late movie etc) but honestly it's better that you at home, let's face it what is there to do past midnight for an 18 year old other than drinking and doing drugs?  

Answer 7

tell them you've converted to be a muslim, turn to mecca 5 times a day and pray ...tell them you need to stay out later because you're going to the mosque for religious studies...

...or just be honest with them, tell them you and you friends are going out to get drunk and laid...you might just earn their respect, after all, they were young once too

Answer 8

It's not about just your parents wanting you in the house by a certain time, they are probably being law abiding citizens.  In the town where I live, the police will pick up a juvenile for being out after a certain time of night.  They don't give the youngster a ride home, they take them juvenile hall.  Just chill and quit your moaning.  The 18+ clubs won't let you in being under age.  Last time I looked it's still August.  September 2 is not too far away.  Stay young as long as you can.  Becoming a person of legal age isn't all that it is cracked up to be.

Answer 9

u want a later curfew. move out into your own apt.  or go to college and live in a dorm.

you may be a legal adult but its their house.

i was an adult living at home during college breaks and after college, guess what my parents were just as strict as when i was 10 years old.