What should a guy wear to a wedding?

Question

Okay, so I was invited to my cousins wedding in September. He's g*y and wants to get married now that it's legal in California. Anyways, I have no idea what to wear. I'm an 18 year old guy and it's going to be a formal event in Newport Beach in Orange County, and it's going to be outside. And now my sister told me the other day that there is going to be a lot of uppity people there, so I'm feeling kind of intimidated. I really can't afford Rodeo Drive stuff. I feel kind of stupid for asking this question as I should know by now what to wear to a wedding, but oh well. So what should I wear to a formal wedding? And thanks for your help :)

Answer 1

If it's really a formal event, then generally, a suit is the most appropriate choice.  Double check with your mother or your aunt, to confirm that a tux is not required (normally, the invite would say "black tie", if that's what they're expecting).

Considering the weather, you might look into getting a light colored suit, or at least one made from a light-weight fabric, such as linen.

Don't worry...nobody there is going to take the time to look at the tags inside your clothes, and they won't know how much you did or didn't spend on your outfit.  Also, most truly "uppity" people don't go to g*y weddings, so take a deep breath and relax.

Answer 2

you should not stress its not your wedding be more worried about over dressing just keep it simple

just get some slacks tuck in your dress shirt and have a belt

good clean shave a nice jacket some kelone on your neck.

antiperspirant cuz weddings can become hot with alot of people

dont worry just keep it simple no need to spend alot of $$$ as long as you look good (the brand is on the inside how with they know if you spent alot)

Answer 3

I would wear a nice suit.  Color doesn't really matter, although I would not wear a lime green suit to a wedding.  Go with a khaki, tan, navy, or gray suit.  nice button down collared shirt and a matching tie.  If you see people aren't wearing suit jackets, you can always leave yours in the car, but its always a good idea to have a suit jacket just in case.  I would avoid black pants and a white shirt because that's usually what waiters wear and you don't want to get confused with the staff.  You can get a nice suit for less than $200 if you shop in the right place.  You probably already have a nice pair of khaki pants.  Why not go with a nice navy sport coat with khakis with a white dress shirt and tie?  It'll be less expensive to just buy a sport coat and it always looks sharp.

Another option is to rent a suit.  Most tuxedo rental shops also offer suits for rent, although if you do not have a suit, you may want one for your wardrobe just in case you end up going to another wedding!

Remember:  It's not the brand name, it's how you look and feel in the outfit!

Answer 4

To be honest, you've said two contradictory things:

Formal wedding

and

Outdoor wedding.

Generally, outdoor ceremonies are less formal (largely because the weather requires people to modify their dress and the natural surroundings.  If the wedding is actually on the beach (it looks like Newport Beach is!) that will also drastically affect the way you dress.

My thought is that you talk to your cousin or his family to get more details about the ceremony.  If it's away from the beach, at a private club outside, I think a suit is proper.  A summer-weight wool (which will be hot, even if it's summer weight) or linen (which looks cool but wrinkles) would probably work.  And if you go to a place like JC Penny, you can get a suit for $150-200. (And a nice one, too! All wool.) If you go to a place like Macy's, look to spend $300.

But if you're on the beach, then linen pants, khaki shoes and a crisp dress shirt is what you need.  I would find it hard to believe that some people would go to a beach wedding wearing a full suit.

Answer 5

it will be hot, so wear khaki shorts, nice flip flops and a nice dress shirt, or wear dress shoes, khaki pants and a dress shirt. ask your cousin what he wants you to wear. if its going to be on the beach, id wear flip flops

Answer 6

jeanz and a tee!

that be funny since g*y is so stupid and wrong if you stood up and said "no i will not let you marry him because i love you too much!!!"

HA HA! then put it on youtube!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

black slacks...white shirt. Simple

Answer 8

If it's a formal event then you have to wear formal attire.  A nice suit and tie should do.  Try a light (khaki) colour suit and that should be too hot.

I know around here (Ontario, Canada) they have sales where you can get suits for like $199 for the whole thing.  I know it sounds like a lot, but a good suit will last you a long time, and every guy needs one (you will probably have another wedding to go to in the next 4 years).

Or you could rent one.  I think there are men's shops that rent nice suits as well as tuxes.  Call around and ask.

Answer 9

Formal weddings can be tricky.  A lot are "black tie" and, in that case, a prudent step for you is to rent a tux.

If it is formal, but not black tie, you can't go wrong with a dark suit, shirt and tie.  You don't need to afford Rodeo Drive stuff - a dark charcoal suit would be a good investment because it is a "universal" color suit which you would be able to wear that on many occassions.  I would then suggest an off-white shirt (white can be too blinding), or possibly a "fall-ish" color and corresponding tie.

Depending on where you get the suit, you can complete the ensemble for about $350.  It may sound like a lot of money, but suits are an investment - you get a lot of use out of them if you care for them correctly.  Check out Macy's, Men's Warehouse, and some other middle-tier suit stores.

I wouldn't worry about the "uppity" people - they will be too infatuated with their drinks than worrying about an 18-year old relative.

Answer 10

If I were you I would wear a coat and tie and classy shoes...if you get in there and no one is wearing a tie then you can take yours off untuck your shirt and undue the top buttons and there you go you have a casual outfit...by the way do they need a photographer?? I do wedding and tell them congrats!!!!!

Answer 11

You don't mention whether the wedding is during the day or in the evening. Since it is going to be hot and outdoors, my suggestion is a light-colored suit (light gray, tan) with a light blue or pink dress shirt underneath, and a nice tie. Even if you can't afford an expensive suit, you can up the caliber of your outfit with a good tie, shined dress shoes, and an ironed shirt. Even a colorful pocket square can make your outfit look more refined.

If you're still struggling, talk to other men attending the wedding and see what they plan to wear. Remember, people will be watching the grooms, not you. Unless you look completely inappropriate, no one is going to care too much about your outfit.

Whatever you do, DO NOT wear a white shirt and black slacks without a tie or jacket - you will look like a waiter.

Answer 12

A nice suit

Answer 13

I would think a light colored pant and dress shirt with a tie would do just fine.  It is hot there so a suit would be out of the question.  A white pair of pants and any color of shirt with a jazzy tie would be wonderful.

Answer 14

Black Dress pants or a nice pair of khaki's. Then wear a nice collared button down shirt.