What should a parent do when a 10 year old guest acted out sexuallly?

Question

My daughter, who is 10, just told me that at a sleepover this summer another child, also 10 touched her in a very inappropriate way. Also, there has been a great deal of discussion about s*x between numerous children in her class last year. She has a looping class so she will be right back with these kids this year. I was very calm and listened without reaction other than saying I understand curiosity but it was inappropriate and should not happen again. And if it ever happens again to tell the person no and come tell me. She said she was scared to tell the girl no when it happened. How should I handle this. I do know there will not be any sleepovers for a long time.

Answer 1

If it were me i would talk again to my daughter and explain to her something maybe going on in this child's life and she needs help and it is up to us to get it for her  i would then contact the girls school counselor with my daughter and let her do what she thinks best

good luck

Answer 2

You should bring it to the attention of the adults. The child's parents that touched her, the teacher. That is extremely unfortunate that this had to happen to your daughter. You should grow closer to any of your daughter's friends guardians and make sure that NOTHING like this will happen and to keep and eye on their children too. If it was me I would want another parent to let me know that this kind of stuff is happening so the word can be spread and it can be stopped!

Answer 3

Acting out sexually at such a tender age is a strong indicator that inappropriate acts are happening to this child.  You should bring this to the attention of the child's parents and school teacher.  

Answer 4

i hjave a cusin that is 10

and she says that thats what

everyone does in her class i mean she is only 10

you should speak to her teacher somting

Answer 5

i have a 12 year old. it hasn't happened to her. it happened to me when i was 9 & 13 at 2 different sleepovers. and my sis girl has gone through it.

i think you acted appropriately. i would stress the fact that she needs to be a stronger with her "no". this could have been a boy.i have playacted with my daughter about this, and we tried different situations. one thing you have going for you is she talked to you, that is great.

i, personally, would not stop the sleepovers. with this one girl, yes. sleepovers and slumber parties were the funnest thing when i was growing up and my daughter loves them now. i wouldn't take that away because of one mixed up little girl. if it does happen again with the same girl i would call her parents. in fact, i would actually let her

parents know about this incident.

as far as talking about it in school, my kids had a s*x education class at the age of 11. at ten they were also talking about it in school. she needs to be informed about how to handle it when it comes up again, not sheltered from it. good luck, and good job.

by the way- i wouldn't freak out until it happened again. this happens more than you think. i have lived in a few different cities, and it was always the same. i hear about it at church, schools, skating rinks, arcades, movie theaters etc. if your daughter sees you freak, she will be afraid to say anything next time, for fear of what you will do.

Answer 6

That sounds rather disturbing for a 10 year old to do that to another 10 year old. I think you should tell this little girls mother!

Answer 7

This isn't very normal for 10 years old do be doing and talking about s*x so openly.

I'd bring it up with the parents of the child, and also talk to the teacher of the class.

I hope everything works out well for you and your daughter.  

Answer 8

The most important thing you can do-

is keep in contact with your daughter.

Let her know what you think about inappropriate actions regarding s*x. Let her know how to defend herself when put in difficult situations.

Next step-- if you are really concerned,

You might consider changing schools, if you can afford it- a private school?

You may let her teacher know that you are worried about some of the kids in her class, and ask the teacher to keep a special eye on your daughter

If you feel comfortable, you may want to talk with the girl's parents; and discuss what you heard from your daughter...

Best of luck!

Keep in a close relationship with your daughter, and everything will turn out fine!

Answer 9

You NEED to go to the parent(s) of that child and let them know what happened. They may end up being defensive and deny that their child did anything wrong, but they may be open to hearing it as well. When talking to the parent(s) keep your cool and don't get upset.

Answer 10

I would tell the parents of the other girl.  Just to let them know what happened.  Not make a big deal, but at least let them know so they can have the talk with the other little one.