What should a special gift mean?

Question

My male friend of 4 years, whom I get along with very well, gave me a bottle of perfume on my birthday. There has been heightened sexual tension between us for the last three months and I got this present a couple of days after my birthday, which is the day we have kissed unexpectedly. We have so far resisted all this tension due to my marriage. He is single, but loves women in general. My only concern for us is to make sure our friendship is unharmed by any sexuality that may occur because I value him a lot as a person. We have neither talked about how we will proceed at this stage nor do we intend to talk since we cannot handle a relationship due to many reasons. I am confused about all this happening and need your insight to form a clear opinion, especially where I should see myself in his world.

Answer 1

well i dont think having s*x with him is the right thing for u, after all he's just a friend  and you are married, so dont ever think about having s*x with two men at the same time,

i think he really loves u and wanna continue his relationship with u (i mean getting married) cause not giving u a present in your birthday and giving it to u in that day, i think it means he wants more kisses and after more kisses, a hot night

so be very careful, i think u should continue your relationship with him but without this sexual thing

good luck

Answer 2

Your male friend could very well be in love with you.  Guys do not usually befriend a girl for that long, and expect to be just friends.  It's usually because they really like that girl.  My best friend was a girl, and I was head over heels for her.  I'd realized, I couldn't keep on being extremely close to her or else I'd never get over her and be able to move on.   I barely talk to her and try to spend as minimal amount of time with her.  It hurts, and it sucks, but I had to do it to help me get over her because we were that close.   The same might have to happen with you two.  

Obviously, you seem to respect your marriage, so you need to try and end the sexual tension between you and your friend.   I could be completely wrong, but my guess is he has had a huge crush on you.  Obviously, he respects that you are married, so he doesn't want to ruin the marriage.  But, that won't stop him from liking you deep down.   If you cut back on the sexual tension, that will give him signs to back off, but all in all, I really don't think he'll get over you unless he backs off, and you guys lose a part of your bond.   Because you're the girl he trusts the most, respects the most, values the most, cherishes the most, etc., the only way to move by that is to get away.  If he remains good friends with you, I don't think he'll ever get over you.

You love him to death as a friend, but if you know for sure that he loves you, you may have to let him go.  Otherwise, that may not be fair to him because keeping him around, you'd know he'd never move on.