What should be done about my mother who stalks me?

Question

i am an adult grown 26 year old male and my mother stalks me, badly! this is extremely high level of control... i mean it couldnt be more blatant and nothing is ever done about it. i can do nothing about it. my father is extremely bad as well. my sister is g*y. my best friend is dead. there isnt anyone to turn to. things could get worse. i dont want to turn into norman bates.m - for real. when i went to college is when i first started seeing how bad it is and that i am really a hostage of their insanity. she said things out of the blue in my new home in another state 'you have to give us some control' and there was no dialogue.. it came out of nowhere. my sister made me so sick that i decided it would be best to move back to my home town, which is a large city, and get my own place and work... i worked with my father... got anxiety. then i moved back into the house at home for a year and my mother had drilled a hole in my bathroom door to stalk me. then i moved to an apartment and she would come over to my house at random times just to see if my car is there. or if i was in the hot tub chilling out at their house i would see her staring out of her bathroom window stalking me. she is sick... what can i do? thanks.

Answer 1

i would move away && not tell them about it...so they wont be able to find me...i am not j/k.

Answer 2

good gracious your mom is crazy, it sounds like she has some serious letting go issues. The best thing you can do if move across the country and not tell them where you are until she gets over whatever it is she has...

Answer 3

You might not be able to do anything to your mother legally, but I think you should not visit their house to use the hot tub if you don't want her to stare at you.

Stay at your own place.

Get a post office box.  Make sure no one but you can get your mail.

Buy a safe and keep your valuables there

Warn any girlfriends about your parents' behavior.  They CAN do something legally about it.

Be smart and protect yourself.  Try to think of your vulnerabilities before they do, at least until you move so far away they can't bother you.

My mother always tells me your mother is your mother the rest of your life, no matter how old you are.  Some take that more seriously, or obsessively, than others.

Answer 4

be assertive,

confront her and say "what the h**l are you doing?"

tell her to stop or you will take action, move away, ect.

have you ever watched "everybody loves raymond?"

moms are like that.

just move away and dont tell them where.

if what you say is true then do.