What should i do,pls help ??

Question

Hi,

My bf has a habit of drinking, he drinks thrice in a week as an average.

But he promised me, that he will leave this habit after marriage.

shall i trust him, is it possible for a boy to leave this habit, and what if he is addicted, and unable to leave after marriage, what will i do then ?

He loves me a lot, that is no doubt, but drinking habit. i am now at convincing my parents, but after marriage, they will come to know, its not good.....

Answer 1

respest him for his luv to you but sorry dont trust humanbeing can never leave these habbit dont take risk and take your own decision

Answer 2

Smokin is addictive..and so, it is not that easy to remove it just like that...Same is true with alcohol..

Why would he have to wait til marriage to remove his habit...Why not start right now?

Answer 3

Being married will not stop him from drinking.

He will only stop drinking when he wants to.

It sounds like he does not want to stop drinking, he told you that to avoide the issue at this time.

try testing him tell him you will not marry him until he has stoped drinking.

how will you know for sure that he has stopped?

He will simply drink when you are not around.

you have to deside can you live with him if he will not stop drinking?

Answer 4

r u mad or wht guy are like this only they never change trust me even i am guy...........

alok  

Answer 5

I shall advise you to bring wine at your house and serve your husband with your own hand and slowely you should try to reduce the quantum and one day he shall leave this drinking habit.

Answer 6

Probably you should try talk to him and make him stop the habit, but if he is addicted I don't really think he can stop that habit. So ask him to read quran or hadith and he should be able to stop the habit.

Answer 7

MORE THEN GF TRY TO BECOME HIS FRIEND AND TRY TO BE ALWAYS WITH HIM OR KEEP HIM SO BUSY THAT HE DONT GET TIME TO THINK ABOUT ANY THING.

Answer 8

Yes there is a possibility that he may leave drinking completely after marriage ....

If in your relationship, he has promised things and lived upto those commitments in the past then he will do so in the future..

However in the past also if he has made commitments and not lived upto them then I am afraid he will not quit drinking...

My grandfather left smoking in one days time... he was habited to it for 26 yrs approx .... its only a matter of how realible the person is & it can be best judged by his past behaviour

Answer 9

take him to those places where they help people overcome these addictions...

Answer 10

No dear i wont think so men will change after marrige. If you want change him should do before marrige.  

Answer 11

Ask him to leave that habit before marriage.Never ever trust a drunkard!!!It is so sad to hear that you fell in love with such a person:( And one more thing,let your parents know about this matter.It is better for you to think again rather than regretting for a life time! Hope you make a better choice.All the best:)