What should i do? My ex is pregnant and its mine!!!?

Question

My ex is pregnant and she said its mine... and she is with someone,, and she is saying that she will just say its the guys who she is with now. I dont knwo what too do... she is thinking about gettin an abortion but she is also thinkin about keeping it

Answer 1

better get another job.  two words: child support

Answer 2

Don't do a runner. Karma will catch you. Be there and support her and the baby.

Answer 3

if she keeps it and says its yours and you want to find out...you can do a paternity test...

if she decides to abort the pregnancy then you cant stop her..

but also if she keeps it let her know its not a good idea to make someone else think that they fathered it because if something would happen to the baby in its life the father may b the only one that could help it..for example blood transfusion etc or medical history...

you guys need to sit down and talk if she decides to keep the baby..

Answer 4

I think if she is that young and immature to where she is thinking of lying about who the babies father is she needs to either give it up for adoption or have an abortion. THEN RAP IT UP or not be doing it. You should tell her to grow up and if she does keep it get a DNA and if it is yours take care of the baby.

Answer 5

If I were you, I would talk to your parents and hers, and her.  Whoever the father really is should have a say in what happens to the baby.  Both need counseling on what options there are before making a big decision like that.

What do you want from this?  She can't lie if it is really yours, she shouldn't lie and say it is his.

It is a mess, but having an open and honest and mature conversation will help put things into perspective.   Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

Talk to her, support her in whatever decision she makes, Be there for her and the baby if she keeps it.  

Answer 7

I would definitely not be okay with her decieving someone else telling them it's theirs. So I guess I would ask for a paternity test once she has the baby and then go from there.

Answer 8

She will have to tell the truth to her new boyfriend, and you will have to support her financially.

When your child gets older you owe it to him/her to know his/her real parents. (the truth ALWAYS comes out eventually)

Oh, I would still do a paternity test, just to make sure!

Good luck

Answer 9

Think about what you want, are you ready for a child with this ex? Personally (and I don't mean to be biased here) I don't agree with abortion so naturally i'd want her to keep the baby.

Are you really happy with your ex saying that the baby is her new partners? Whether she decides to have an abortion or not, there are many ways in which you'll be able deal with the situation, so don't worry!

You need the weigh up the pro's and con's of the whole thing and what you want, see what you think is best, and get your word across to her!

Hope all goes well.

x

Answer 10

u gotta think of the kid...imagine growing up with someone who u think is ur dad but really isnt...and u gotta feel for the other guy thinking hes got a child but really doesnt

Answer 11

If you do love her.

Tell her you love her and you want to help look after the baby no matter what it takes.

if she loves him,

tell her that she should keep the baby no matter what

Answer 12

Well, if she keeps it and says it's the other guy's, it will create a huge mess in the future. If she receives ANY kind of state assistance...even medical...after the baby is born they will force her to go for child support and she'll likely have to get a paternity test done. Or...what happens when her and this guy break up? What if she decides in 5 or 10 years she made a mistake by lying and takes you for back support from the day that child was born (and yes she can do that). What if some day the child had a medical condition and it has to find out that way that it's been lied to all along?

My point is...there are way too man "what-if"s". Lying about who the father of your child is...it's not a joke and she will not get away with it forever. And you shouldn't sit back and even think about having someone else take care of YOUR responsibility!!

You both need to have a very long takl and come up with a plan together.

P.S. Are you even SURE it's yours? Or could it actually be the other guys??

Answer 13

Don't have her tell the guy she's with now that its his...thats ****** up... if she decides to keep it she needs to tell him the truth and u need to step up and take care of your responsibilty... and if she decides to get an abortion then u guys go ur seperate ways...

Answer 14

run to mexico and stay there for a while.

Answer 15

you need to decide if you want to be a father, if you really do then tell her you want to be a father and be there for the baby, even if she wants to be with another man.  You can always get a paternity test to prove its yours to get visitation, but also you'll be paying child support don't forget.  If you don't want to be a dad, then tell her the truth since if you have no desire to be in the picture at all EVER then the choice is truly just hers.

Answer 16

If she plans on keeping the baby, you need to step-up and be a father to him or her, its the right the thing to do, what happens if say down the road they dont work out, and she comes after you for child support in the end due to DNA?

Answer 17

She sounds like a real keeper.. Technically there is nothing you can do if she decides to get an abortion but if she decides to keep it, wait out the 9 months and force her to get a DNA test. That way you redeem the guy from loving a child that he will find to be not even his after all, and you will know for sure if it is even yours..

Answer 18

What a mess. In my opinion, she should keep it, abortion is never a good option since it's killing a baby. I think that if she keeps it, you should get a DNA test as soon as possible (when it's possible) and if it's yours, I think she should face it (you too) and come clean to her man but she shouldn't blame it on him if it's not his. Having a child is a blessing so see it like that and everything's going to be ok. Best of lucks

Answer 19

If she keeps you should get a DNA test as soon as its born so you know for sure.

If she refuses a DNA test, then the kid isn't yours.

Answer 20

Do you want to be a father? If so request a paternity test. If the child is yours then be a good and caring father. If you don't want to be a father then you should still find out if the child is yours, then provide the mother with your families medical history. She may decide that you must pay child support, but if it is your child you should. If you give up your rights to the child you will be let off the hook. If the child isn't yours then you have no responsibilities, as long as you don't claim the child.

Answer 21

I think whatever the reason you two broke-up, and whatever she chooses to do about the pregnancy, you should be there to fully support her.

I'm sorry, but there isn't a lot you can do.

It's hard to be pregnant; and I'm sure she's stressing out about this much more than you are. This is her body, and pregnancy causes a ton of hormones to go crazy, which will also make the situation a lot harder on her.

Be the most amazing ex ever and give her the freedom to do as she will, and give her space.

Of course if she chooses to keep the baby, you'll need to sit down with her over a coffee and discuss how much of a role you want to play in the child's life.

But until then, try not to worry.

Good luck,

xx

Answer 22

tough situation.....if infact it is urs take responsibility.....id wanna DNA.....unless .....i dont know .......u have any other childern?? maybe this one is the only one you'll have ?....and why is she ur ex??....is there any way that u 2 will get back together?... but what if it is his......?  thats why people shouldnt cheat or be sneaky cause look at u now wondering what u should do,,,

Answer 23

this happened for a reason, first you need to find out who's it is and go from there the more she thinks of abortion the less likely she will have one. Maybe you guys were meant to be together . simple as that  

Answer 24

I don't know your age or anything but, a baby is a baby, you two don't have to be together in order to take care of that baby, and she has to be honest with her partner because at the end the truth always comes out and it could hurt the baby in the future to know that is not his real father, if her partner really loves her he can take care of the child as well... but if he doesn't compromise, which i understand, she should make a decision what is more important, her baby or her relationship.

but you have to be there for her, because she is going through a difficult decision and is a long process, always try to go with her to her appointments and try to keep a close relationship and especially for that baby in the future, and provide love for that baby, is YOUR sondaughter we are talking about, at the end when that baby is birn it will all be WORTH it, trust me... you two just have to be strong...!!

good luck!  

Answer 25

I would support any decision she decides (abortion or keeping it) because after all it's her body but I would not let her tell someone else the child is theirs. That will come back and haunt you.  And morally it's just wrong.  If she keeps the child then support her throughout the pregnancy emotionally and financially and make plans to become a single father because you two aren't together and when the baby is born you will want visitation.  

Now, are you sure the baby is yours?  I would hate to bring this up but ALWAYS make sure, especially since you two aren't together and she is willing to tell someone else the child is theirs.  Why would they believe that if it wasn't a close call?  When the child is born I would definitely get a DNA just to be safe.  She should understand and if she doesn't then something is amiss.  Good luck!