What should i do about my 11 year old daughter?

Question

I walked in on my 11 year old daughter. She didn't notice at all. But i got a peek of what she was doing. I saw her rubbing her private, the one between your legs. What should i do? Is this unusual? Please help, i am nervous and confused.

Answer 1

Don't do anything. Next time kock before entering.

Answer 2

Maybe she had an itch, or an infection. Maybe she got "the gift." Talk to her, but wait a day or so to see if she comes to you. See if there are any pads missing too. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Of course not. She's curious, and there's nothing to be worried about. You could try talking to her though- don't make it seem like you know what happened, just try to talk to her in a way that's comfortable for the both of you. If you treat the situation with sensitivity and poise, she'll try to talk to you more.

Answer 4

she is at that age where she is starting to get curious and is testing out her body. Nothing unusual about it, but I would suggest taking her out to lunch for some bonding and talk to her about masterbation and s*x. Surpisingly kids at 13 are going out on dates and preforming "sexual" favors. If you talk to your daughter now it may very well help her in the long run. My mothers biggest mistake with me was making me feel as though I should be ashamed of sexual feelings and desires so please PLEASE be opened with her and let her know she can turn to you for advice and to talk about anything without judgement

Answer 5

either it was an itch which is fine or sheh was doing the obvious sit down d'nt talk to her abou twhat happened just give her the talk if you already have then it's fine either way i wouldn't worry just tell her the hard scientific facts give her a break it's hard to be 11 just do what you can to be the best mom you can be

Answer 6

and you didn't when you were her age?

Answer 7

Im 12 and I cant believe that you would want to share this with us! Ewww... Its normal, dont talk to her!

Answer 8

TOTALLY NORMAL!!! that's about the age when all kids start experimenting things!!!:)

Answer 9

just talk to her and say it is normal explain way

Answer 10

Not unusual-u also probably did it.Sit down-explain to her about birds & bees.Tell her its natural to feel godd by touching private parts but that they r called PRIVATES  for a reason-cos they're not meant for Public display. And touching them might cos her irritation  or she may get used to doing it all the time.

Answer 11

i read in a magazine that what she is doing is normal and healthy

be glad she isn't out there doing it

Answer 12

It's called a v****a and it is quite normal for her to m********e.  I'll bet YOU'VE masturbated a time or two in your life...you obviously have had s*x, which tells me that SOMEONE had to touch YOUR v****a.

Answer 13

It is normal.  Don't do anything or you could make her feel like what she was doing was wrong and shameful, and it isn't.  Don't worry she is normal and acting like most kids her age.

Answer 14

Its perfectly normal.  : )

Answer 15

it might be time to have the talk with her. she is growing up and will ether learn from you, or learn from her friends.

Answer 16

there is nothing wrong with what she's doing, you know you do it too!!!! we are BORN sexual beings. If you havent talked with her yet about s*x (which you should have) then you should start the conversations now

Answer 17

It's normal.

Answer 18

Your daughter is starting to mature and explore her body.  It might be a little younger than you would like, but some kids do it even earlier than that.  Most of the time it is absolutely normal, but in rare cases it is because they have been touched by someone else.  Have a talk with her about it in private.  Explain to her that it is OK for her to do this.  Stress the importance of proper hygiene to where she washes her hands before and after so that germs don't get in there and cause an infection.  It is completely normal for kids to want to m********e.  Just like it feels good for you, it feels good for her.  Come up with a way where she can signal you by closing the door and putting something on the doorknob so she can have her "private time" and not be disturbed.  She will feel comforted to know she can speak to you about this without getting in trouble or thinking it is a bad thing.  Good luck to you and hope this helps!

Answer 19

This of course is pretty normal.

Girls start this earlier than guys.  Some as early as age 3.  I had a girlfriend who admitted this, and I have read it elsewhere.

Except for twisting her brain some, it won't grow fur, cause blindness, nor probably not cause eternal damnation;  for indeed we all are most likely saved and I would think that something like this would not stop it.

Honestly I wonder where the taboo against rubbing on the good parts came from.  When I grew up it was worse than sleeping with someone else.  Might still be? I of course disagree, but then again I may be wrong.

I would not mention that I saw.

I would initiate a talk about the birds and the bees and how she should be good, and if she can't be good, be very very careful.  

I would keep dark religious overtones to a minimum.

Good luck with this.

Answer 20

I would talk to her.....yeah um she may be wanting to have........................