What should i do about my fiance? ?

Question

My fiance and I have been together for over 2 years now. lately, all we seem to do is fight because he does things on purpose that he knows that upsets me. I try to let it go but then he comes back with lies, false promises, and things like that. He tries putting the problem on MY attitude. Am i wrong for getting frustrated and angry with him over the lies and deception?? any suggestions on how to make the situation better?

Answer 1

the only way to make it better is to tell him to calm down and go to marriage counseling

Answer 2

Sorry, he doesn't sound too nice. Do you really want 2 spend the rest of your life with him?

Dump him.

Answer 3

Do you think marrying him will get better? Return the ring. Hope it wasn't expensive and move on to peace and serenity.

Not all men are like that you know.

Answer 4

give him 3rd base

Answer 5

HAVE s*x WITH HER

Answer 6

maybe it is time for you reconsider if this is the person you want to continue being with, usually when relationships turn for the worst then it is probably best to cut your losses and move on to a more enjoyable life without constant bickering.

Answer 7

my suggestion is to leave him. i was engaged for 3 yrs and i took way too much c**p from him. we fought all the time and he always blamed me, never stood up to take any blame. every guy blames the girl. thats how they deal with things. no i dont think you are wrong with getting angry. i think you are wrong for staying with him. if its that way now it will be the same or worse once you are married. get out now before its too late. i though my world was over when i decided to leave him. let me tell you i was wrong. the past yr has been the best yr. i found myself again and started being a better mom to my girls. do yourself a huge favor and get out now. good luck!

Answer 8

There is a reason he is doing these things. I don't know what they are but you may want to take a new look at your relationship with him. He may be trying to tell you it is over.

Answer 9

No you are not wrong about being frustrated and angry. I can say I totally understand. I am going through the same stuff...but I also found out he had been unfaithful.  And that was the big reason why he was turning things around.  They say it is a sign for underlying behavior. Maybe guilt?? I would sit down with him and tell him to be honest. Your partner is suppose to be your best friend. If that does not work. Move on.  Why be unhappy life is to short. And misery loves company.  

Answer 10

He is messing with you.  He wants to have you around to have s*x with him.  The ring is there so you keep hanging around.

He will not get nicer after you get married. If you even get him to walk down the aisle.

Everytime he comes back you should tell him something new and expensive will make you feel better. Watch him run away because a ring with one woman is not as expensive as a new woman everytime he is in the mood.

Two years that ring has paid for itself in dinners and dates with  15 women. There are 52 saturday nights in a year. How many did you spend crying or trying to make him happy? He should have been taking you out every one of those.

Answer 11

You should absolutely rethink your relationship. If it's tough now, imagine what it will be like for the rest of your life! It seems like he is showing more of his true colors, and if so, this is the least that is to come... But you need to keep in mind that deception is never acceptable in a relationship (at least not a healthy one).

Aside from rethinking your relationship, you should try and see if something else might be the cause of the tension.

That's about all I can suggest, you might wish to be a little more specific as to what you mean by "lies and deception".

Answer 12

its not your fault at all..my mum and her boyfriend are like this and have been for a very long time..i can only suggest you get counselling for you and you fiancé. it will help..its just one of the only things my mums boyfriend has refused to do.

and honey blokes will all ways try to put the blame on you..or your attitude but if they paid attention it there attitude that causes it. try to talk to him about it. and as for getting frustrated and angry. that's totally normal.

so don't worry..its not you.

hope things get better soon (:

Answer 13

Are you just assuming that he does these things on purpose?Sounds like a miscommunication problem to me...

Answer 14

no ur not wrng @ all he cant blame is problems on u. u jus need 2 let him know dat he needs 2 str8tn up asap cuz u aint got time 4 da bs and he needs 2 b a man about his bs *** problems fa real  if u really luv em give em anotha chance  str8tn thngsnup 4 da betta

Answer 15

=( i'm sorry. Tell him how you feel.

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Answer 16

The main reason that people get divorced is that they married the wrong people in the first place.

If you start up with someone, there are only 3 possible outcomes:

You break up

You get married

One of you dies.

As of now, you have not married anyone inappropriate. It is not too late to break up

It is obvious that he wants out of this relationship, regardless of what he might say..Yes, he will change, he will get worse.  Leave while you can.  

Answer 17

you aren't wrong and you should leave him because he doesn't love you.