my husband(31) of 3 months has a friend from high school A. (also 31) who is always in need of advise about girls. he divorced 2 years ago and is constantly dating someone new. A. is needy and insecure but hs is also obsessed about girls and s*x. He emails my husband listings of girls on-line, websites of hot girls (not p**n) asking him to check it out, and he is constantly talking about girls' attributes with my husband. Another thing is that he likes to have every girl he dates run by my husband. He needs to ask his opinion and over analyze her. My husband often tells him what to do regarding that area. Also, my husband enjoys meeting every one of A. dates and bringing them to our apartment to have dinner with them (all together). He would also volunteer to drive his friend and his dates to places, etc.....I believe that his involvement with this friend's dating life is excessive and I have told him it bothers me. I have told him he should let his friend handle his personal life on his own. Instead my husband has started to lie to me about meeting with his friend A. and even brought A. and his new date for dinner at our apartment once (he cooked) when I was out of town. He then lied about it but I discovered. Big fight. My husband also have told his friend things about us which we had agreed not to tell anybody, such as our plans to marry privately in a civil ceremony and then surprise everybody with an announcement card. My husband told his friend A. and then told me he didn't. Again I found out and we had a big fight.
Fights about his relationship with this friend have increased since I am distrusting my husband at this point. I don't understand why he is so interested and involved in A. dating life. Sometimes I feel he puts A. before me.
I would like him to distance from A. but I feel it is not a good thing to ask. What shoudl I do?
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