What should i do about my parents

Question

what should i do about my parents...

all they care about is my grades....they don't even care about me

they don't even want me to be social even if my friend comes over my house and i asked persmission they still get mad no matter what and for no reason whatsoever

please don't say talk to your parents about it i have tried that several times through hours of explaining and yelling and getting hit with a stick...and a counselor won't work bceause that's just talking about my problems not actually solving it...and when i ask them for something like if i can go to the mall or something they get irritated sometimes

i know i mentioned this but the worst part is they only care about me grades no matter what happens

if i broke an arm or fell down the stairs you know what they would say "You are not going to die"

and my parents have been recently lying to me it's only been happening two times so far but it's getting me pissed like one time my dad said i can go to the mall with him and my mom but you know what they said they had to get his truck checked so they didn't take me and worst of all they lied i know i have lied to them but it's just getting me pissed and they are doing this on purpose i know it seems like i am acting like an immature child but it maks me mad when someone just says we are going to the mall tomorrow and then the next day oh wait i don't remeber saying that or you are not going to the mall and what i said yesterday was a lie and they haven't even said sorry

and it's h**l when i go shopping with my mom all she does is complain her knee and feet hurt and yell at me when i can't make a decision and puts pressure on me like it depends on my life it just shopping for pete's sake and then we get in a big fight and all that stuff

to sum it all up i hate my parents and it will stay that way no matter what happens actually i loathe my parents

what should i do about all this?

Answer 1

Since you hate them, what makes you think they would ever want to be any different than they are right now to you?  

Find a way to get out, because you will never change them and they will never change you.  

Answer 2

they can't hit you with a stick

it's illegal. is there anyway you can contact another family member and try to explain to them the situation? one that you trust and love, or anyone else.

Answer 3

grow up

get a job

move out

and see how real life is

Answer 4

You need to talk to a caring adult or a counselor. She will be able to see your point and help you understand if you are acting immature or have negative attitude. For the most I can tell you, don't keep this inside you. If your parents don't listen when you talk to them calmly, well don't breakdown and scream. That would be responding childish. I am pretty sure they love you and want the best for you, but just don't know how to show it. You see some parents are just like that. There's no way they are ever going to change. My parents were very much like yours. I grew up in a very pressured home. They never changed. I am 34 and they still treat me like a little girl. I just realized that that's the only way they show me they love me. I try to talk to them and make them understand, but they think I am weird. But thank God I grew out of that. Now I can raise my children different without the need to embarras them or put them down. But don't let this get to you. Maybe you're just too young to understand their point of view. The only thing that worries me is that they hit you. And thats not a proper way to handle your behavior. I suggest you talk to someone who can make them understand. Good Luck.  

Answer 5

I guess it is time for you to get a place of your own.

Answer 6

I am guessing you are about 13?  How ARE your grades?  Do YOU care about your grades?  What is so special about the Mall??  

Look, they only want the best for you. Like spending your time working on getting better grades.  Are you homework, reports, and projects always done?  Or do you spend too much time at the mall?  Do your mom & dad work?  Maybe mom is tired from being on her feet all week, then having to accompany you shopping.  It probably not much fun for her.  Maybe you could try to compromise...show parents a paper which got a good grade, then ask if you could spend some time window shopping so when your mom (and $) go with you, you will know what you want. You might earn their respect if you offer a compromise.

This attitude (your and your parents) won't last forever.  All of you will change. Your parents might be extra cautious if you are their oldest or only child. Malls are not as safe as they used to be these days.

I guess I was lucky, my mom and I used to walk to the mall in the evening and just look around for entertainment!  It would be good to vent to a school counselor. They might have some ideas to help you handle your situation. Good Luck!

  

Answer 7

What is your age? That counts alot. So far, you said you've lied to your parents and you loathe them. Trust is earned. I know thats not what you wanted to hear, but it's true. Firstly, talking about your problems, is solving them. When talking to your parents, try to remain calm and no YELLING.Soon they will see that your acting mature. It may not work at first, but evevtually, it will. When you can, just be gone a couple of hours, and earn their trust.Also keep your grades up and prove you can do things with your friends and get good grades.

Answer 8

Dear Nana,  I know you have very good reason to feel the way you do about your parents.  But getting mad and arguing with them does not help you at all it only makes them even madder at you.  I'm sorry you are in this situation.  By showing them that you are mad you are giving them a reason to treat you worse.  Try, Try for a while to not react to anything they say or do don't let them see you are mad.  You only hurt yourself by reacting to them.  Try to behave in a very mature way a way in which they are not behaving.  Let them see and maybe things will change.

But if you are being abused and really harmed you can call your local Child Protection Agency you can get the number from information.  You can report your own abuse but do it as if you are someone else who is worried about you.  You never have to give your name it is all anonymous.  Your parents will never know you made the call.  Within 48 hours someone has to come to your house and investigate the situation.  Or as a last resort you can call the police the next time you are hit as that is against the law. I can guarantee if you have the courage to do it they won't hit you again as they will have to go to court.  Try your best not to do anything to make them mad because you know how they are going to react.  So do the opposite be a bigger person than they are and be as nice as you can no matter how hard it is.  Unfortunately I don't see any other choices for you.  I think you may be able to change this situation with your own good behavior.  I'm watching and worrying about you.

Answer 9

well when you turn 18 get a job get a place to live move out or move in whit you grandmother and hitting you whit a stick next time they do that call child protective services or cops  

Answer 10

Do you have a family member you are close to like a grandmother or aunt? Or do you have friends parents that your close to? I would suggest talking to them about the way your parents are always negative towards you, and maybe you and your grandmother could sit down and talk to your parents about it. Maybe that way they'll realize its really a problem and they need to change and be loving towards you like you should to your daughter!

I hope things get better for you.

xoxo