What should i do at my wedding?

Question

ok so i'm not getting married until at least a few more years. However, I have a problem. I have my real dad and my stepdad who have both played an intricate role in my life. How do i decide who walks me down the aisle? Do they both walk me down? Also, who do i dance with at the father daughter dance? Has anyone had this problem? I've always been scared for my wedding day because i don't think I'll know what to do. I feel that if i dance with my dad my stepdad will get upset and vice versa. Please Help!!

Answer 1

your dad is the one to walk you down the isle and the on you dance with when it is the dance to dance with his daughter and the you can dance with you step dad youur next dance

Answer 2

I have a dad as well as a stpe dad!...even tho my daad can b a real pain sum times I wld still let him hav the dance and walk me dwn the aisle bc that means so much to them!...They've looked forward to seein their little girl grow up i mean i wld want my REAL dad to do this with me!

Answer 3

Unless there is some animosity between the two, have them both walk you down the aisle.  Will you mother be joining in on the response to who gives the bride?  The dance is a little more intricate.  I would suggest a line dance except that my daughter, who is an event organizer, would kill me.  You could start dancing with one father and let the other cut in and then have them both turn you over to the groom.

Answer 4

You write:  i'm not getting married until at least a few more years

My advice?  Don't worry about it yet.  As you gain more maturity and life experience, you will be able to stand up for yourself and decide what is best for you.

You have plenty of options.  

1.  Walk with both dad and stepdad, one on each side.

2.  One man can walk with you halfway down the aisle, the other can take over and escort you the rest of the way.

3.  Walk by yourself.  Being "given" in marriage is an antiquated idea, dating back to the days when women were actually considered to be property.  You are no one's property.  Walk by yourself.  Have officiant skip the "giving away" portion of the ceremony.

4.  Walk with your groom.

5.  Walk with your mom.

And at the reception?  Dance with both dads, one after the other.

As long as you are confident about your decisions and let dads know "this is how I want my wedding to be" . . . then things will be okay.

Edit:  If the strain is too much, then elope.  You don't have to have the parents present.

Or . . .

The traditional way.  Mom and stepdad sit on first row.  Dad escorts you down the aisle.  All three parents can stand to "give you away."  Then dad returns to his seat, in the THIRD row.  The second row can remain empty, or you can fill it with other friends or family members.

At the reception, you and groom will have a sweetheart table for just the two of you.  Dad will have his own table, where he is surrounded by his family and friends.  Mom and stepdad will have a table and be surrounded by their family and friends.  By acting as host and hostess at their own tables, mom and dad are kept busy . . . not interacting with each other.

Warn your photographer that mom and dad do not want to be photographed together.

There.  You have done all you can.  Now stop worrying.

Answer 5

Both dads can walk you down the aisle.

Don't make yourself sick about this; find the book--Weddings, a Family Affair, by Marjorie Engel.  It deals with all kinds of situations for the family/stepfamily.

It's g-r-e-a-t.