What should i do? depressed

Question

2 weeks ago i took a morning after pill for the first time after having unprotected s*x with my boyfriend, i am a 'muslim' & this goes against everything i should believe in, my parents are devout 'muslims' and don't even know i have a boyfriend, i feel like such a deceitful s**t. I thought that somehow love would fix the problems in my life but in fact its made it all worse, i can't talk to my boyfriend or anyone else because they'd just go and tell. i figure that im most likely going to h**l so why not just commit suicide & be a coward and escape this? in the past, the pain that my suicide would cause family members has stopped me but recently ive stopped caring, in fact id love for them to feel it and know that all they've ever caused me is pain & suffering. But most of all i just want peace, ive thought about suicide many times before and each time it just seems more and more tempting. what should i do?

Answer 1

hey...having s*x is often a disappointment, you are not the only one. But you are quite insightful because u can see that you were just using it as a way to get love.....sadly, it isnt....I have learned the hard way too.....its disappointing, but itsnot the end of the world and it shoudnt be the end of your life.Im sure you do feel decietful, but dont feel like that just because the s*x wasnt what you expected.....you made that decision before you even had s*x, so try and accept that you felt that way at the time, wanted to experiment, and that decison is separate from the actual outcome, which you cant totally control. Its not your fault it didnt go as well as you hoped, but your reasons for doing it were still valid to you at the time that you made that decision. Whats done is done, try and learn from it for next time. You are definitely not the only one who has been dissapointed like this....and as for feeling guilty about hiding this from your family, you could strike a deal with yourself. If you say that all they have caused you  is pain, then dont feel guilty about this.Its going a bit far to kill yourself, but the least you can do is live by your own rules etc, if this is how you feel. But if you are to allow urself that break from guilt, dont punish them in other ways like killing yourself. This IS  their punishment, and your secret, if you see what I mean. I also wanted to kill myself but the pain I would cause my family stopped me too. They have caused me pain too, but in the end, its not quite worth losng my life for. And one day you will live in your own house and be free of them.

Answer 2

you should check yourself in to a mental health hospital, its safe there. they have all the tools to help you and its not like you see in the movies...or call a criss hot line.  

Answer 3

in muslim point of view with going to h**l i think u also know that suicide is a great sin.there is also one solution in islam that if that boy marry u then u r not going to face any problem even in akhirat.why dont u try to make  convenced ur boyfriend to marry u.u didnt mention ur age but according to islam law u can marry a boy after 9 years old.so,better choosing a death way.try to find the way to convence them.it will be better for u and better from death.

           If the boy love u he will must marry u.but if he doesnt then go and tell ur family.they will be angry but they are ur parents,they will must forgive u and show u the new way of life.people do mistake,but they dont die.Ur parents give u life to see the world so they never gonna throw u out.

        If ur boyfriend agree to marry then both of try ur best to solve this problem.ur life and future will be safe after a little hardship.

You know what u should do.Just think with cool brain and carefully.but whatever it is dont do suicide.U may get forgiveness from allah but for suicide,never.

Answer 4

Although killing yourself at the moment seems like the easiest way out, don't do it. Some difficult things in life are always going to come up, stick through it, things will get better.

What you did i'm guessing wasn't an easy decision, but i bet you had good reasons, stick by them, don't waste your life wondering "what if?". One day you'll look back on this and realise that things could of been worse and you'll be thankful you didn't end your life.

Think about your family and friends before you make any rash decisions. Good luck. =]  

Answer 5

jeanimus's advice is excellent. May God give you peace, and hope. I know that as a Muslim you may already know about Jesus, but not accept that he died for the sins of us all, anyone who believes in him, but I do believe in him, though not until about 13 years ago. I did many things which the law says I must die for, but God in his mercy waits for us all to repent, not wanting any to perish.

Answer 6

There should be some kind of womens centre in your town. Even if you are still quite young, they wont turn you away. Go and try and speak to someone about all the stuff that is worrying you. They wont tell anyone youve been there or contact your parents, so it will be a safe place for you to get help.

Answer 7

DO NOT KILL YOUR SELF  don't worry bbe I'm sure every thing will be fine sorry i don't have any help full advice  

Answer 8

There's nothing worse than committing suicide as it's irreversible.

In my experience, people often (but not always) get angry with those who commit suicide - they don't blame themselves or feel the guilt that you might expect.

So - first advice, stay alive. Then you have options.

If you're upset about what happened, either break up with your boyfriend or use condoms and it won't be in the position of having to take the morning after pill again.

I do wish you luck.  Time will heal this.

Answer 9

You need to go to God. =)

He'll forgive you no matter what. Psalm 103:12 "He has removed our rebellious acts as far away from us as the east is from the west."

And suicide is not the answer. God loves you, and I'm sure you have people around you that love you too.

As far as the "going to h**l" part. That's easy to avoid. You just have to believe that Jesus died for you, confess that you have sinned, and ask God to forgive you so you can have eternal life with Him.

I know you're scared, and I don't have a lengthy, in-depth answer other than seek God. He's the only one who can hold you when you're hurting. And He's just waiting for you to call on Him. =)

Answer 10

Suicide is never a good anwser. It fails to solve any problem and is a cowards way out. You however are not a coward. For even posting this that says your not ready to give up. I have to be honest I dont know much about the Muslim faith but I do know that no matter what you are or what you beilieve in there are always people who have gone what you have gone through or worse.

I would first talk with your boyfriend. A true relationship can only exist between people who can openly exress things to each other. If he wont listen then you need to cease the relationship.

The next step would be to talk to your parents. Which is going to be hard. Its alot easier to talk to friends soemtimes then it is parents but it needs to be done. They may be mad at first but if you trully feel that what you done is wrong and you let them know this they should be less harsh. But regarless everyone makes mistakes. Its apart of our human nature. We live and we learn.

Get up that courage I know you have and go talk to them. In the end it will turn out good you just have to keep the wheel turned in that direction.  

Answer 11

If you believe in God (Allah) then you should know that he is forgiving. No matter what you do, as long as you feel regret if it is bad then he will forgive you. God loves everyone. Even I know that and I'm athiest. Sorry that sounded cruel, but you shouldn't commit suicide because the fact that you feel guilty shows that you are deserving of forgivness. h_h

Answer 12

Taking Authority over Your EmotionsEmotions are an area that many Christians don’t understand. Because of this, Believers often allow their emotions to lead them. As a result, emotionally-led decisions take them on a course that is out of the will of God for their lives. While God gave every human being emotions, it is critical that we get control over negative emotions and subject them to the Word of God. Make these daily confessions so that you can subject your feelings to God’s Word and make the right decisions:

Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me healthy emotions. I declare that negative emotions will not impact my decisions, neither will they dictate my responses to difficult circumstances. I will submit my feelings to You in every situation that I encounter in life. You have given me authority over the power of the enemy, and I declare that nothing shall by any means hurt me, including people and situations that try to negatively influence my emotions. When I feel overwhelmed by life, or troubled by negative emotions, like Jesus, I will pray and keep moving forward I bind depression, anxiety, worry, fear, doubt, anger, rejection and any other negative emotion that tries to attack my mind. I possess power, love and a sound mind. I thank You, Father, that I walk in peace, joy and the comfort of the Holy Ghost. I have the mind of Christ and my emotions are controlled by the Word of God. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Scriptural references:

·Mark 14:33-35

·Luke 10:19

·2 Timothy 1:7

·Romans 14:17

·1 Corinthians 2:16

God Bless U

Answer 13

Do not kill yourself. The only thing that can help you is your religion. Try reading some books about your faith.

Answer 14

go to the your holy place and itmit it, you betrayed your parents trust and your gods, go to them before is to late or for ever shall you be sinned to a life of unhappiness

Answer 15

ohmygosh HANG IN THERE! no matter what don't kill yourself b/c u have ur whole life ahead of u and that at least is something to look forward to. i'm a muslim too and i kind of understand what ur saying (i also thought love would solve all my problems)... the best thing to do is tell your parents the truth. i mean, how much damage could it do? at least try to fix ur problems before u kill urself. i bet they love u more than u know... good luck! i hope everything turns out alright.