What should i do! help me!

Question

ok i already asked this but i left out some info so here it is..my mom doesnt like who i am and just recently said i was a s**t and grounded me til i change but i am finally happy with who i am cause i have a crappy home life and so i am listenin to screamo (which i love) and she hates it and i wear alot of black and dark eyeliner and she is completely against it. i think its unfair that she is grounding me cause im not the picture perfect daughter!! i have tried talking to her but she wont listen but she always talks about how bad she was when she was my age and she always she says those were the best years of her life and she has done way worse stuff than i have (which is hard to belive cause she doesnt even know half of the junk that i do) i have tried everything i can think of but she doesnt care she just wants me to be the always happy and nice person i used to be and wear all these bright colors and be someone im not so her co-workerswill like me and people will stop "staring at me weird" when we go places.cause i really dont care wat people think of me as long as i am ok with myself then its all good but thats not the case with my mom she thinks anyone who wears dark eyeliner is a w***e!! what do i do?!

Answer 1

Don't change for her or anyone. for other people to like you, you have to like yourself first. And you do, so that'ss what really matters.

:)  

Answer 2

The problem with Mom's are that when they have daughters they want to try to live their lives thru them, and that is not fair. Their jobs as mothers should be to support their children. She wants the best for you, she just doesnt understand new trends or why you do the things you do. Constantly work on doing good things that will surprise her instead of rebeling that way she will see who you really are and appreciate her. Do things nice things for her, so she can take back her words. Sometimes our parents dont know or understand us and it is up to us to change them slowly by being nice not by yelling and trying hard to prove them wrong.  

Answer 3

Like it or not you're going to grow up and grow out of all this rebellion.  Life doesn't offer much of a choice.   But you do get to choose some small amount of the quality of your life.  You can choose to not get along with anybody, have no friends, have no relationship with parents, do poorly in school, and fail to develop a future potential for yourself.  Or you can choose something else.  Either way life goes on.  So you get to choose how pleasant your little piece of it is.  Your choice will have a significant impact on the rest of your life.  If you stay angry,  ten years from now, you'll be paying for the choice.  Be assured -  it's your choice.  Mommy isn't making you wear black or anything else.  You are making those choices.  Don't blame Mommy.      

Answer 4

When you can support yourself and have your own place you make the rules of your house.  While your mother is still supporting you and your living in her home, you have to live by her rules.  I'm not saying her rules are good or bad, just that they are her rules for her home.  Wear what she wants when your at home.  When you leave the house, change into what you would like to wear.  Letting her believe you are obeying the rules will be a lot easier than trying to change her ideals.  She won't change.

Answer 5

If you enjoy looking like a clown keep it up,If your doing it for attention your getting the wrong kind, You will certainly attract other clowns,Maybe you can join the circus,Do yourself a favor listen to you MOM

Answer 6

have you told her that you are finally happy with who you are?

sounds like your mom is just a *****.

i don't really know what you can do.

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sowwi.

Answer 7

First of all you are an individual and you should be happy with who you are. Your mom however sounds like a winner calling you a w***e! She should be ashamed of herself and get over it. You are a girl finding your identity and she should be aware of that and let you be! Do what you want!