What should i do?? i am soo hurt.. ?

Question

Yesterday my husband and I got into an argument.. it was over our puppy peeing on the carpet and finances... his parents are over and they keep demanding things from us.. we barley make it through.. anyways soo outta no where he got pissed at my puppy and said "NO" to it really loudly.. this was at 11pm.. i got angry and was like its not the puppy's fault it pees on the carpet its yours for not training it.. why you yelling at it.. he was like whatever "****".. he never has said that to me and i was just soo hurt..i didn't sleep all night and i just cant forgive him.. hes never said that to me before and i would have never imagined him calling me something like that.. i just dont know what to do.. i feel like just ending it because i am soo sick of his attitude hes changed a lot for some reason... he gets stressed out and makes haste decisions.. hes never physically hurt me or anything and he would never do that..what do i do.. he pretended nothing was wrong this morning and tried kissing me before he went to work.. obviously i didnt feel the same way..should i bother saying anything or should i just let it go.. i just dunno what to do..

Answer 1

Money problems can ruin a relationship but him calling you a name isnt a reason to consider leaving him. He sounds stressed and honestly ask yourself are you helping the situation? Are you going shopping and/or staying at home when you can get a job? Is all the pressure on him? Talk to him and you two both need to not let ANYONE interfere in your household. So if his parents need money and you guys don't have it, don't give it. Learn to say no to your parents. People can ruin a relationship as well so with that said, good luck.  

Answer 2

The stress of finances, in laws and a new puppy are a lot.  If this was an isolated incident you have the right to feel hurt and you also have to right to get a sincere apology.  I believe he did the no worries from last night act because he just wanted to move on and be normal with you the next day.  However, most women (myself included) do not just forget being called a **** the night before and let him know you guys need to discuss what went on and that you will not tolerate the name calling.  

Good luck and I am sure you guys are just going through a tough time right now.  Later you can look back and laugh while saying, "Can you believe how stressful that was?  I am so glad we got through it!"

Answer 3

that's where it starts.....next thing u know, its rolling off his tongue like its nothing.....and you will start to go "numb" to it. please dont let it get that far....

dont take it too personally, but do talk to him about it.

i call people B's and A's all the time when im driving and they pi$$ me off......you prob. just got on his last nerve...u did say his parents are stressing yous out....good luck...

Answer 4

apparently there is a lot of stress and the parents are compounding the issue with their demands and throwing a puppy into the mix is not helping the situation.

for the sake of your marriage talk to your husband and  DO NOT BE CONFRONTATIONAL AND ACCUSING!!!!

talk to him like a person and be genital about it find out what the problem is

Answer 5

I say definitely say something he cant fix it if he don't know whats wrong. The stress of his parents may be getting to him try to show compassion for that and tell him he needs to talk to them about it and don't take it out on you . He may be stressed from work my husband get a little out of sorts sometimes because of stuff from work and he has taken it out on me. My husband does the same thing and then tries to act like nothing is wrong you have every right to feel the way you do. Also I don't want to scare you but even though he has never been violent doesn't mean he wont my sisters husband had a major change like that a year ago started with the yelling and cursing and just being plain mean then he got physical with her. She found out a few days later he was on steroids just something else you might want to check into. ps if you love him and want to work it out then try.

Answer 6

The puppy isn't the problem....You need to get to the root of the problem...which is causing a great deal of stress in your marriage...and I would imagine that the problem is finances and the fact that his parents are demanding money....that you don't have...Time to get a budget and get your finances in order...and to tell his parents that you aren't in any position to help them out financially when you are having trouble with your own finances...

Answer 7

He is just stressed about finances..Granted is should never be okay for him to call you Bit**..but men take out their frustrations in different ways..and of course they always act like it never happened..but i would act like its bothering you! Then he will know it hurt you!

Answer 8

tell  him how you feel and how offened you are, he was probably over tired and used bad judgement, but thats no excuse, don't just let it go, thats like saying is was ok.

Answer 9

i would tell him how you feel. he might have been stressed out because of the parents. and he don't know to deal with them coming over and trying to to take money from you guys i would sit down and talk about what is on his mind to make him so stressed  out and why he is so mad all the time. and tell him how you feel when he gets this way. and never go to bed upset or mad because when you wake up you will feel the same way. if you have a fight let him and yourself calm down and than when you both feel like you can talk than you talk about what just happen. even if its 12 am you should always talk about how you feel or you will keep it inside and you will feel like this. I hope i helped and best of luck

Answer 10

Look p**s on the dog>Make love to him have a great dinner> Spend the night playing> Much easier than fighting> He tried> Know it's your turn>if all falls apart you tried> Good luck have fun>  

Answer 11

Your an emotional marshmellow...

You need thicker skin and you need to be more interested in plotting a solution.

Maybe he needs some help. Counseling?

Why do women just give up? Why don't you find the problem and FIX IT!!!!!

Instead you run around all wrapped up in your FEELINGS...

Hey, feelings are important and so is respect. I am not taking that away from you... but your lack of positive action is deplorable.

So, why don't you spend a few days l*****g your wounds and then give up like a quitter. Why should you have to try? Why should you have to get to the bottom of this and be a help? Why should anything NOT be about you and your feelings?

Nahhh, your not proactive enough to try counseling. You would probably have to DO something then and you don't want that.

Besides... it's a puppy, not a child. Yelling at a puppy should not be rated so high on your 'evil' scale.

OMG! call the police... this is probably a felony! A man yelled at a puppy!!!