What should i do i love him

Question

i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, when we first got together i didnt think it would be serious or even last this long. he did not approve of me having male friends so i told him i stopped talking to them, but i didnt and he found out 3 times, i felt so horrible so i really stopped talking to them, he took me back, but that was months ago. and within the last month i have caught him talking to 3 different girls about having s*x with them but i dont know if he has. i have found other girls panties but other than that only text messages. he promised me he would block there numbers and has yet to do so. we have also gotten into 2 fist fights were police have been called , and his family hates me and blame me. everyone says i should leave him but i love him so much and he seems like he is trying to change, is that possible, do you think he cheated, and should i feel insecure about the other girls? how do i make sure im his one and only?

Answer 1

First of all, if the 2 of u have gotten n2 fist fights, other girls r not what u s/b concerned about! U need 2 RUN, not walk, away from this UNHEALTHY relationship!!!! Secondly, u stated that u found other girls' panties but "other than that..." Other than that?!?!?! What more do u need 2 find?!? He is TOTALLY controlling!!! U can't have male FRIENDS, but he can talk 2 3 diff girls abt s*x, have girls' panties, receive text msgs??? NO WAY!!!

Again, the DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is what concerns me most. Do not get caught up in the trap of accepting violence--it will continue 2 be a destructive part of your relationship. U r not a punching bag! U stated that police have been called. I don't know if u both were arrested, but do u actually want 2 have a record? Is he or ANYONE worth this?!? I think not!!! I know u say u love him, but love IS NOT supposed 2 be like this. Yes, ppl have their ups& downs, but this is UNHEALTHY & TOXIC!  4get wondering if he cheated & if u should feel insecure abt other girls! U asked how u make sure ur his 1 & only. Who cares,  if u r his 1&only if he's treating u worse than animal c**p?!?Do whatever it takes 2 feel secure enough 2 RUN!!! My thoughts & prayers go out 2 u. I hope u get out of this UNSAFE, UNSTABLE, UNHEALTHY relationship ASAP!

Answer 2

I think this guy is a control freak. Why can't you talk any males, but he is talking to girls. You may need to re-think your decision to say with this guy.