What should i do in order to reform my life? ?

Question

Okay well im currently living with my gf, and its know its haram to live with her under islam. And i havent began fasting yet, but i want to make sure that my fasting may be accepted. But i dont know what to do about my gf? I mean we are both virgins, and we are planning to marry. I dont know many Muslims where i live, also all my family lives in Russia, so we cant talk under supervision. What do i do, im planning to fast Ramadan beginning on the 5th.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Brother obviously you don't read Quran.If you're scared of people then don't ask anyone to answer for you and if you're afraid of Allah then you'll have the answer.Allah Yahdeek.

Answer 2

look were not scholars or anything

but trie to get married

dont make children while fasting (this causes u to make 60days up everyday u do it)

if u cant just dont touch each other until you do get married

and if u cant help ur selves do it at night not while fasting

ur virgins so it wont be much of a difficulty

Answer 3

Get married to her

Learn more and more about Islam together and insha'Allah she will become Muslim

Start fasting ASAP

Answer 4

Tough situation, easy answer.  Go to a mosque, marry her tonight.  You don't have to blow years worth of savings on useless wedding customs.

And don't commit other sins because you're living in one.  Start fasting and complete it brother with the hope that Allah will accept them and fearing his punishment.

Its good that you haven't indulged in anything initmate so far and that makes the situation easier on you.  Before satan makes his move, make yours.  Marry her.

Answer 5

why are you so afraid to just marry her and get it over with? this was the exact same position that i was in with my husband 6 years ago, and as soon as we turned 18 we got married. poof. halal. its not that complicated.

Answer 6

Well if you can't separate (That's what I would do) just don't sleep in the same bed or the same room because you'll get horny lol as simple as that...keep her away from you, dun let her disract you from praying/fasting for Allah. Get married as soon as possible then you can live together and do each other without any worries. Just dun give up on fasting/ibadat/prayers because you have some girl livng at your house. Tell her to go to school or something so she won't be around you a lot

Answer 7

first you have to make sure that you don't live with a girl out of marriage even you both virgins, and you haven't fast yet to make sure your fasting would be accepted or not, why do you delay fasting, thats unacceptable in Islam, do not delay it and do fast, you don't know when will you die,,  

Answer 8

just why are you living with her, hasn't she got a home of her own? you can live with her when you get married.

in my opinion you'll get your share of sawab from fasting, providing you dont break your fast because of her, fasting dont break just by eating you know.but its sin, what you are doing, you know?

Answer 9

Well, brother, I suggest that you tell her that you either want to marry her or that you can't go on with the relationship because it is not allowed in Islam. Is she a Muslim? If she is, I am sure she'll understand better.

As for your fasting, try to start as soon as you can in order not to miss days with no valid reason and make up for the missed ones after Ramadhaan.

May Allah guide us all to His path.

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Well, I guess then you only have the option of marrying her. You know that it is not allowed to have a girl friend and so I suggest that you should inform her about this as soon as possible.

Answer 10

Make sure to get a stable job.  I'm sick of working hard myself to pay for lazy people who rely on welfare hand outs.