What should i do my boyfriend keeps leaving me and going to get drunk?

Question

He leaves then comes back but i dont like the fact that he leaves!! he tells me he's sorry but then he does it again? and we have a son together a house and 2 cars and im only 19 and i dont know what to do? and he seems as he cares about drinking more then me?

Answer 1

Right now, it seems as though he definitely has his priorities in life a little messed up.  I’m definitely not taking his side, but I’m sure he’s probably scared about being a father and doesn’t want to give up the lifestyle he had before the baby.  I'm assuming he's around your age, and going out and drinking with friends is almost a typical thing to do at that age.  I'm sure that's what most of his friends without children are doing.  However, the fact remains that he now has a child and a girlfriend.  It seems as though he would rather go out than deal with his responsibilities of being a father and boyfriend.

Life is all about balance, and maybe you would be able to sit down and figure something out.  Maybe you both can work in planned free time hanging out with your friends, so that he and you don’t feel completely shut off from friends.  But, this would also allow for you both to take care of your child and work on your relationship.

Please, please, please make sure though that he is being responsible about drinking.  I just don’t want to see his drinking negatively impact the safety of your child.  If it is, then I definitely think more drastic measures are needed.

Good luck...

Answer 2

Can you say ALCOHOLIC?  He has a drinking problem or maybe even a drug problem, he needs help.  Tell him to get help or you are gone.

Answer 3

It is the age he is at.  Most guys go through this party phase.  And given the situation with the kid at an early age, it is probably his way of de-stressing.  That doesn't excuse it but that is probably what it is.  You two need to talk and maybe work out certain times for each of you to have some time to yourself.  Just let him know that it bothers you.  don't yell or get mad cause he will just get defensive, tell him that you want both of you to figure out what to do.

Answer 4

well..i think you should tell him that if he does'nt knock it off and grow up!!..since he is supposed to be a parent aswell, that ur gonna leave his ***!!..u don't nessesarily need to mean it for real..but it will definitely give him something to think about!!..maybe it will work, u never know:) good luck hon:)

Answer 5

Yep, I agree witih Track ll - - if leaving for booze is more important than staying with his family and responsibilities, he has a problem honey!

And if you don't get out early, you and your son will face serious repercussions for LIFE (at minimum until your son is of age).

Is this the situation you want your son growing up in??  I didn't think so, start taking steps now to change it!