What should i do? my fiance cheated on me and i think shes having an affair. On top of that we have a child?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have gone out for over 2 years spending almost everywaking moment together. I proposed to her and she said yes. We were very!!! inlove, we had a child together. Two months after the kid was born she slept with someone else and likes him alot. She thinks things are boring and she has no fun with me anymore. She wants to go out and party, etc. We haven't even had s*x since a couple weeks before dilivery. Why whould she cheat on me and want to spend time with this guy.(she's known the guy for awhile as a friend). We have a kid together and i love her still. Is it possible she's just trying to get away from the responsibility? She started spending time with her friends after the kid was born to and the guy was in that group. So the question is why did she cheat on me. the person who would do anything for her and loves her so much. Not to mention the father of the child, and what should i do? If she's willing to cheat on me is she worth fighting for?, or should i split custody and find someone else.? Theres alot more to it but this is the nutshell version.

Answer 1

She has a kid at home and she still wants to go party? Are you two very young and had a child before you were ready? I'd have to say that if she is cheating on you (and your child, really) then you should end your relationship, even if only temporarily. Maybe she'll grow up a little and you can patch things up, but that's only if you would even still want her after she cheated on you!  

Answer 2

Well, if you want to be married to a dirty w***e and babysit the kid while she's out whoring around, then by all means, marry her. Otherwise, grow a pair of balls and start acting like a man. I can't stand it.

Answer 3

No she is not worth fighting for!  Yes, split custody and be done with her!  Even if you get her back right now it will not last.  The damage is done.  Let her go.. you go on with your life and find someone who will love you and want to be with you and your child.  Be happy!  Choose happiness not misery which is all she's going to offer you.

Answer 4

Bro do it for the kid, anyways. Your gonna set yourself up for misery in that relationship, Shes gonna walk all over you. I see where your coming from you love her so much. But she doesnt love you. Don't waste your heart and LIFE!!! Some female is out there who's is waiting to be faithful to you and shes beautiful and what you want in your future wife. Get out of this one and get a paternity test. Just do it.. Its all up to you...

Answer 5

Take it from a girl who is the other women with a man who has a pregnat fiancé . I know my man does it because it makes him feel like he is still a young man he's not ready even if he thinks he is I would get out now because cheaters are usually just that

Answer 6

Its time to focus your attention on your child and leave this women alone. Your child needs you most right now. She isnt worth fighting for someone better will come along eventually.

Answer 7

Get yourself an attorney and get every penny from her.

Answer 8

sorry, guy, but it isn't going to get better.  Her behavior is abnormal and I'm guessing (as a woman who was shocked at the responsiblility of motherhood) that she's feeling desperate about motherhood.  Overwhelmed and she's trying to escape.  She's hurting you and her baby.  

She's not going to stop this now.  Maybe if you leave her then some day in the future she'll be faithful to someone, but it won't be you.  She's not even sorry that she's doing it, you're sorry that she's doing it and you can't change a thing.

I'd get custody of the baby if I were you.  She seems unstable.  Few new mothers would do this.  

Sorry.  Leave her.

Answer 9

maybe she's not ready to face the responsibility as a mother & wife..

talk to her, to let you know what's goin on between the two of you..

but when the thing go wrong/worst.. leave her & bring your kid w/ u when leaving her..

she's not deserving for your love...

Answer 10

Call maury!

He knows what to do

and also but some good dancing shoes

get a dna test and if the kid is not yours giver her a divorce and a 2 finger salute and move on and laugh in her face.

Answer 11

ok you might not like this answer yet this is the honest truth from so many people THIS IS NORMAL  you just had a baby and it sounds like its your first, the women horomones are so messed up for the first 2years she dont know whats going on and the worst thing is arguing and accusing makes things worst this is the stage that even if your doing all well and all loving its still not good enough. SHES GOING THROUGH THE STAGE OF WANTING HER LIFE BACK SIMILAR TO A MENS MID LIFE CRISIS SO IF YOU DO love her be there support her love her and it will be HARD very hard yet its part of the relationship bumps that you need to het through if you get through this you can handle anything . its not you its the horomones Im sure she loves you in a few years all will be normal.

Answer 12

get rid of her man. y cant more guys b like u u sound really in love, but if she saying she has no fun with u well say well y u still wit me she playing u as a babysitting fool, get a dna test don't say its not my kid i want a dna test done, give her the flick u will be better off

Answer 13

fiancee...sweet no divorce paperwork...you see the true colors of the person before the contract...visitation rights...there you go...DO NOT FIGHT FOR HER...move on...that is what will get her attention....and don't ever get back with her....you can do better...and you will

Answer 14

Did you get a DNA test and please dont say something like "I know its mine", if you do not have proof its yours than you are a moron.

And be honest, if she hadn't of gotten knocked up, you'd be long gone.  Trust me, I've been there.

Answer 15

i believe if she cheats now she will do it again, don't marry this cheat.

marriage will not change her.

Answer 16

I have a feeling you both are really young and that the baby was an unplanned pregnancy... IF so, then this wasn't the life she really wanted, even though she had the baby. When you're young, regardless of responsibilities, you still want to go out and have fun. Life gets boring easily and it's hard not to go out when all of your friends are.. I think you need to speak with her and let her know that it's either that other guy or you and the baby. Be prepared for her to walk away from the child and have her give away her rights as a parent.. You don't want her coming and taking the baby away from you and having some other guy raise your child.

Do what is best for you and your child right now, regardless of things use to be. It doesn't matter to her anymore, so you need to move on too.