What should i do now about my mom???

Question

im crying rite now, i barely ever cry. its all because my mom is being a total b****! It all started like 15, not even 15 minutes ago when my mom asked me

"r u good with resames?"

"idk[i didnt actually say idk]"

"Would you like to update mine?"

"Sure"

....

"if i update ur resame, can i get out of watering the garden tonight???

"just forget it, ill do it myself"

"y?"

"because i said so"

"then dont ask me nxt time"

"dont F*** with me! go to your room, u may come down for dinner but thats it!"

"if u dont clean up ur act by tomorrow u cant go to ur friends bday party!!!"

i have two best friends, and the one that actually throws bday partys is having hers tomorrow

This isnt a freak accident, it is usual with my mom

she yells a us alot for doing one thing wrong

and then acts like it never happened

she promised to take me to color me mine on saturday b4 this and tried to get out of it becasue my cousin wants eggplant!!!

i said but u promised!?!?!

and now we were gonna go again

i love my mom

we have good times occasionally

what should i do???please help with good advice that ill use

Answer 1

you sound like a brat. She just wanted you to help her.

Answer 2

Your mother shouldn't speak to you using curses. If it bothers you, you need to communicate with her about that. BUT she had a right to be angry with you and this is why:

You conditionally grant favors to your mother. She will resent this. If every time you asked her for a favor (driving you to your friend's party, driving you to Color Me Mine, buying you things) she said, "If I do this for you, you owe me xyz," you'd feel pretty resentful yourself. There is a lot of give and take in a family, but it isn't always immediate. If you do your mother's resume, later on she will remember and grant you something you ask for. But you cannot accept to grant a favor for your own benefit -- that is rude and selfish and you wouldn't like that done to you. Maybe one day in the future you're really tired and you need to go to sleep early, you can ask your mom to water the garden for you. Maybe she will say yes because she remembers that you were helpful with her resume and you didn't ask for anything in return, so she will water the garden for you. See how this works? Try to look at all the wonderful things your mother does for you, and you will feel grateful and realize how much both of you give, and how it evens out in the end. Good luck!

Answer 3

It's really unfair how people like Stephanie above immediately assume that it's the kid's fault.  Get off your high horse!

Answer 4

my mom does the same thing! But she comes through in the end.

Answer 5

Believe me, I know what you're talking about...my grandmother's the same way!! She'll calm down later, but until then I would try to be extremely nice, and kind of suck up. I also know what it's like when a mom breaks her promises, but believe me, it can get worse...

I have to live with my grandmother because my mom promised she would come back for me 9 years ago, and she hasn't yet...don't get me wrong I love my mom to...and I'm sure that you're feelings are extremely hurt over what has just happened, but I just want you to know that even though you have these fights with your mom remember to appreciate her and be grateful for her...I'm not being judgemental I just want you to know that there are worse things out there....

In the mean time your mom will come around!!