What should i do now ? im so confused?

Question

So i posted a question abt my hubby and i a few hours ago.. couldnt stop thinkin and worryin so i went to his workplace, he wasnt there.. but his workmates told me where to find him.. i found him sleeping like a baby, with another woman.. we just had a misunderstanding a few days ago.. he was so mean and so cold to me... i dont know how to react.. im just so hurt.. and i dont know if hes gonna come back.. he woke up and saw me, he was shocked but the look on his face was like, what the h**l r u doing here.. what should i do ? my kids r gonna start lookin for him anytime soon.. whatever should i tell them.. we havent talked yet.. i walked out coz it was so painful for me..

Answer 1

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Sorry girl, it's only gonna get harder for a while.

Be strong, and don't talk bad about him to his kids.

Constantly remind them it was not their fault & that you both still love them & you just don't get along anymore.

As they get older use it as an example of why they need to get to know their mate very well before marrying.

Try to use it as a learning experience.

Answer 2

Giiirl. What a S****y situation, and let me say, I'm sorry.

You've got to take into consideration first of all, if he's cheating and you take him back, he's going to think it's ok, and he most likely WILL do it again. Trust me.

Also, if you decide to take him back, how are you going to feel a year down the road, everytime he's late coming home, doesn't answer a phone call, what will you be thinking? It's a feeling that will eat away at you, and you're always going to think that he's with someone else.

You also have your children to consider. And this, you can't take anyones advice on. You've got to do what you think is the best thing for them, and YOU. And if you do break up, you need to let him explain what happened to the kids. Not the truth, exactly, but leave that weight on him.. let him think of what he is supposed to tell his children, after he cheated on their mother, why they aren't going to be together anymore. You didn't put them in this situation- he did.

If he doesn't come back right away, such a cowardly thing when there's children involved, but he will eventually, you've got to know that. Until then, you will have to think of something to tell the kids. Maybe a business trip, or a friend needed his help, anything that will cover him until he mans up and comes back. You're not going to want to worry them, and kids pick up on things so easily.

I think that's really all I can tell you. I'm so sorry you're in this position, and I hope that you can figure out what you need to do about it. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

this depands on you i know a few people who have open marriages and they love eachother the s*x is only s*x  with others but they come home and respect and love eachother .its what you feel in your heart and head what do you want and how mych do you both love and cherish eachothr and do you want things to work.s*x and loving eachother are two different things do what makes you happy and tsake the time you need to decide

Answer 4

what are you asking me for?

Answer 5

Wait...he's cheating?  What do you want?  Do you want to save the marriage?  

Explain to the kids that Daddy had to stay late for work and he'll be home when he's done.  Don't let them see you crying or anything...try to be as normal for them as you can...for now.

If you want to try to save your relationship, wait for him to get home, and confront him.  Forgive him, and try to forget.  

{{hugs}}  

Answer 6

Leave him, he's a jerk.

Tell your kids that daddy is staying out of town for right now, he's busy.  If they are small that should satisfy them. If they are older, say near teen or teenager, then tell them that you and he are working on some issues and everything is fine.

Leave him. If you have a place to go, go there and immediately file for divorce and get the child support order in place right away as you'll probably need the money for the kids.

If you don't have a job, get one right away, find someone to watch the kids.  If you have your name on the lease or the house, tell him he has to leave. Check with your local woman's shelter to find out your rights in your locality.  If you are the sole caretaker then you remain with the children and the children remain where there is a roof over the heads.

Let him have his little woman there. I'm sure the gloss will wear off once he's suddenly unable to whine about his evil wife holding him back.  

But really who cares what happens to him, he's a disrespectful jerk and you don't need anyone like that. Get away as it won't get better.