What should i do? please i need advice :|

Question

i am a live in nanny for these really rich, high society people. and i am also 6 1/2 months pregnant. im going to keep the baby. but my employer and the mother found out about me today and was livid. she says she wants me to get an abortion or else she'll fire me. i told her ok, and asked her to give me 2 hours to pack. and then she got so mad that she started screaming and saying they couldnt afford to lose me, i had to stay i had to get rid of my baby and i was like (in my head) wow you are crazy.

so i pakced my stuff and ws about to go when she came to me in tears begging me not to go. she said i could put it up for adoption, that id be an awful mother anyways (this coming from the woman with no job or anything like that to be a nanny to her 3 kids) that'd shed help me find a nice family. i said NO and started to go and she was sobbing, really sobbing. now my plan was to go to my home country and stay with my sister until i could sort things out, but she wsa begging me to stay. so i finally said i'd stay the week and then i wanted to go. that was a week ago. now i have my ticket ready,

i am gonna stay with a friend for 2 weeks and then go. but she is still begging me to stay until the baby is born and she still wants me to give it up for adoption. she says shell give me a huge raise and more vacation time and she'll buy me tickets however many i want to my home country.

i love my baby but i am wondering if i am making the right choice. my sister, her husband and her two young sons live in a small but nice apartment in a city. baby and i'd have to share a room and i wouldn't be able to get a job for awhile after baby was born. i want to go home with my sister, but i wonder.

Answer 1

Abortion is not an option if you're 6 1/2 months along.  24 weeks is the limit and that's difficult to find.  Does your sister have any idea what you're planning?  Or are you just going to appear on her doorstep pregnant and unemployed?

If you are from a country with a good social system, go home and take advantage of it.  Even if you have health insurance here, there's not a whole lot of social support for unwed mothers and you certainly can't keep that job and keep your baby.

You need to stop and make the plans that you've obviously avoided making since you found out you were pregnant.  If your sister says no, where will you live, what will you live on?  Who's going to look after the baby while you try to support the two of you?  What help can the father provide or be forced to provide?

It sounds like you are not equipped to raise a child but giving it up for adoption is a choice only you can make and you can only make it after thinking long and hard about how you will deal with keeping the baby.

Oh and I wouldn't believe a WORD of the promises your boss is making.  

Answer 2

Hmmm...

1. Keep your child...it seems like you want to have this baby and raise it so do that...

2. If you are nurturing and responsible with her kids then you will be with your own = it sounds as though you would make a great mother!...

3. Don't have your child so you can take care of mine! bullsh*t! she threatened you and you called her bluff and found out she was selling "wolf tickets"...

4. I think you should look for another nanny job b/c she sounds scary and dangerous to me!...

5. save as much money as you can now so you have something when you cannot work...you'll make it stay strong and determined and don't let anyone or anything stop you...talk to your sister...she loves you and won't point you in the wrong direction...anyone telling you to abort or give up your child may not have your best interest in mind!

Answer 3

well this story definately seems well..unreal

but no matter what please dont get an abortion.

its your choice yess,

but how could you just stand there and let your baby die.

do you even now the procedure to get an abortion iss?

they like stick this "vacuum" hose/needly this in you and

swirl it all around to kill the baby. its HORRIBLEE.

not only is it dangerous for the baby, but for you as well.