What should i do.....? ?

Question

ok im 13 almost 14 and this kid ive liked for a year likes me and were gunna chill this weekend. Ive been waiting for this day! hes turning 16 in april (when i turn 14) and hes "experieced" and hes gunna expect it from me. i havent before but i told him i did. now if i do h**l no that i lied, but if i dont ill look like a baby and me and him most than likely wont last. im not sure if i want to or i dont. so what should i do?

Answer 1

Bear in mind that the best way in relationships, may it be love or friendship, is being honest at all times. It means being real.

"Experienced?" Shouldn't you be a bit scared that at such a young age you're already wanting to venture to something you're not yet supposed to be exploring?

You're still young. There's still so much other than that to be given attention. Focus on good friendships instead of that. Don't invest a lot in sexual relations. Build a good morale foundation for yourself because your choices today could help in determining who you will be in the future.

Answer 2

dont do anything you dont want to do. stick up for yourself, and if things go out of control theres always your parents to turn to.

Answer 3

plenty of girls regret the way they lost their virginity and when.  i've never heard any girl regret waiting for someone better.  do you really want to remember this guy for the rest of your life?  you will if you lose it to him.  and "he expects it from me" isn't really the way you want to remember this very special time, is it?  TRUST ME.  been your age, made the wrong choices.  waiting will never be something you regret, not waiting very likely will be.  at least wait until you are totally sure.  this isn't something you can undo or change once it's happened.  when it's gone it's gone for good.  you'll never be a virgin again, no matter what.  you may have pressure now to be doing it like everyone else, but most of "everyone else" is lying just like you were just so they'd seem more mature.  it's a decision you have to live with, doing such a major thing just cuz you're afraid of what this guy will think is more of an immature thing to do than lying about doing it.  respect yourself and the man in your future who will appreciate you for waiting for him.  experience is way overrated.  you can't un-know what you know.  the fewer guys you have to compare your husband to, the better.  again, trust me.  i know you have no reason to but i think i've made a pretty good argument here and i am speaking from experience.  i was 14.  once it was gone, it didn't matter any more because all the "special" was gone and i ended up pregnant at 16.  wouldn't have thought that when i was 14 and couldn't see past the idiots i was trying to impress at school.