What should i do?!?!?

Question

I recently took a preg test cos i was getting belly pains and my belly was harder then normal but the test was negative. but before takeing the test me and my bf were shopping and cos it started raining we went in the nearest shopwhich was mothercare and started lookiin at the baby stuff when i got hope i took the test and thought my bf would be please it was negative but later that night he told me he was disappointed and he wanted a baby, and i want one too but worried what my mum would say or what id do about college cos since i was little my dream was to be a beauty therapist and work on cruise liners but i really want to make my bf happy but im only 17 and his 18. would i still be able to go college and have a baby?? or should i wait till ive finshed my 3 years at college?? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

I had my first child at 22 but hadn't finished college yet. Now I am almost 28 and I am still trying to finish college by taking night courses! I love my son and wouldn't change anything but I often wish that I had finished college before I had my child. Also you go through a lot of changes from 17 to your early 20's and you should enjoy being young and experiencing life. College is a great experience for a young person to go through and will prepare you for your life in so many ways. College can make the difference between making 20,000 a year or 40,000+. It will be much harder to finish college with a child to care for (and childcare is expensive).

Good luck with your decision.  

Answer 2

finish college and be a beauty therapist then you will be able to support your child making him happy isnt a reason to have a baby does he work,college etc if he doesnt then tell him to get a job so he can prove that he can provide for a baby your only 17 you have plenty of time to have a baby have a life first xx

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Answer 3

if you waited till you have finished college you would be in a better position to be able to support your child, and keeping him happy is not a reason to bring a new life into this world

good luck  

Answer 4

im 17 and almost 32weeks pregnant i fin college and goin bk in feb to do the nxt course im not with the babys dad and on my own x

Answer 5

by all means wait, your only 17, follow your dreams and then have children when you are more ready to take care of them.  i know you badly want a baby, but life if hard at 17 and 18 its not easy when youre older, but by then you will have more experinces to go by.  good luck

Answer 6

Since you are the one actually having the baby, I think it he decision is up to you. Personally, I don't think you are ready at that age. (Sorry that sounds a little rude.) But did you know that parents spend over $1,500 a year just on baby supplies? (diapers, clothes, food, etc.)

Ask these questions to yourself. Am I responsible? Can I handle it? Will I afford it? Is my boyfriend loyal and will he support me?

Hope I helped.

Answer 7

I would suggest you finish college first. You can do so much with a qualification behind you.

It would look better in the long run if you say that you have a qualification, but haven't utilised it yet as you've had a baby, rather than you dropped out of college to have a baby.

I still think that 17 is too young.   I know that there are plenty of young Mums out there who are doing marvellous, but given the choice, a big majority of them would say that they would have rather waited.

I had my first at 27.  Even though I had been trying since the age of 19, I still think that I didn't live my life to the full before becoming a Mum.

Please think about it for a long time before making your decision.

Good luck :)

Answer 8

Finish college, get your dream job and once you've got a steady amount of money coming in to the house/family then you can start trying for a baby. Just because you want one doesn't mean it's the right time for one.

Think about it sensibly, are you ready for a baby and do you have the money and facilities for a baby?

Answer 9

Do not get pregnant now, you are too young. You should finish college first so you at least have some qualifications to get a decent job to support your family. Whilst the idea of a child may be nice, keep it at that until you have grown up a bit. If you are doing it to keep him happy, that is the wrong thing to do. Get your own life sorted before giving birth.