What should i do? should i tell him?

Question

last week, my boyfriend "broke up" with me. we were arguing and he said, "okay. it's over. i'm breaking up with you."

he told me that he was tired of the relationship and that he was getting too stressed out over it.

i begged for another chance and we sat in silence for awhile.

somehow we ended up tickling each other and he started saying, "stop or i'll break up with you."

i said, "i thought you already did."

and we sort of laughed about it. all in all, the night ended with me sitting in his lap and us still together.

and the next day he was being so sweet like he wanted to make up for what happened the night before.

however, i'm not entirely sure if i should tell him exactly how it effected me.

i don't feel like i can completely trust him anymore. he "broke up" with me once so he could end up doing it again. now i'm afraid of trusting him with my heart. i'm afraid of falling any more in love with him. i'm so afraid of getting hurt. and the memory of him saying that he was breaking up with me just tears me apart. there's nothing he can do to change what he did. after 7 months of being together, he broke my heart.

would it be better for him to know how it's effected me?

or should i keep it to myself and hope this feeling goes away?

Answer 1

I think you not only need to be honest with yourself, but with him as well. Sit him down & have a chat with him. Don't be abrasive, sarcastic, or yell. Do this quietly & without criticism. Let  him know how hurt you feel. He may ask you why you went along with the laughter when he 'playfully' broke it off with you, so be prepared for that.

The feeling you have may not go away, because it has hurt you so badly, & you'll always be on the alert if his behaviour is different even for just one day.

Do what you need to do, but if it were me, I'd speak to him.

Answer 2

he shouldn't be playing with you saying he wants to break up with you then joke and get back togther. YES you should tell him how it effected you cause thats messed up thing to do.