What should i do to make myself feel better?

Question

I'm not being over dramatic when i say this , but no matter what i do or where i go i always feel like everybody is judging me.. especially when i go shopping. It feels like stuff that looks good on everyone else just looks like a joke on me. And it feels like people are always staring at me, not with funny expressions or looks of disgust, so it makes it worse because i cant tell what they're thinking. I know a lot of people are self conscious, but it seems like all of my friends and other people don't really care about impressing everybody. but i cant help it, I'm so tired of being unhappy with myself .Its like every day i have to put on a fake smile . But I'm just fooling everybody. I'm tired of my life and I'm sick of living this life. And i limit myself to going out because I'm always thinking that someone i know and doesn't particularly like me , is going to be there making fun of me. I've lost control over everything. And when somebody makes rude comments or talk about me it bothers me a lot. There was something that happened to me, and everybody was talking about it and me, and it still hasn't stopped. Everybody knows my personal business and i just want to know how i can stop caring.

Answer 1

Google a short piece called Desiderata. Read it over and over until you feel that you have understood what it is trying to say to you. When you have done that focus. Focus on strengths not weaknesses. Focus on positivity not negativity. Focus on developing independence and self-sufficiency. I do hope you will find something in this to help you and that you will soon be feeling better. Best wishes. UK

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Good question and sadly the answer is vast. If you really want to be happy, you will be, you will find the way. I found myself in the same situation a few years ago and it's taken me about 3 years to really overcome it.  I can't answer your question quickly, nobody can.  The answer lies in you and finding something inside yourself you haven't seen yet.

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Answer 4

People sometimes, not always, judge other people. We all have to wear clothes, so just wear clothes that are clean and tidy, without worrying about whether they are fasionable or not. When you walk around a mall you see many, many people, but you dont actually stare at them, you look past them almost all the time. I think your friends and other people do care about what others think of them, otherwise they wouldnt ask your opinions on things.

There are times when everyone has to put on a fake smile simply because they dont want to bring other people down and make them unhappy. But they are not fooling themselves. People who don't like you are always going to make fun of you, it makes them feel better about themselves. We dont control everything or anyone. When someone makes rude comments or talk about any of us it bothers us a lot.

It seems that you are mainly focussed on yourself, what you should try to do is think about other people more than you think about yourself and help others out more.  This will stop you from focussing on the negatives.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Stopping caring is not going to be an easy thing. But it sounds like you have bad anxiety. Try going to the doctors. They should be able to help.