What should i do was i in the wrong?

Question

i lost my nan last month and she was the closest relative i had and the only person who truly loved me now i have gone through stages and lately have been feeling like everything is too much for me to handle my sister as been asking for me to help her with something and i was like sure come around i'll help ( it wasnt her nan by the way dif dads) so anyway she kept ringing saying oh ill come tomorrow instead 2 times that happened i was feeling really down today anyway she has come and was like cant believe your acting like you dont wanna help well it got heated and we ended up fighting i just feel so strange and like i had enough of everything that yeah i didnt mind helping her but she couldnt understand why i wasnt doing cartwheels about it i just wanted to help her and get it over with as i dont have the energy to be bothered with anything but it hurt so much that she was making out like im such a horrible person what do i do

Answer 1

apologize. tell her what you were feeling and explain yourself. honesty is the best policy !

Answer 2

Call her and apologize.  Explain to her how hard it has been for you since your nan died.  Tell her you really want to help her cause she is your sister and you love her, but right now it is just really hard for you.  I'm sure she will understand.

Answer 3

ooh, your going through a hard time right now. I would explain to my sister that your not really in the right situation to give advice right now, since your going through a rough time. She's your sister and she should understand. Maybe she doesnt realise how hard this is for you, so you should let her know. Don't be afraid to show your feelings.

Hope this helped! if you can help me two, my question is under <friends> and its <Best friend break-up... he got on my nerves!>

thanks!

Answer 4

When a person is depressed it is really hard to be motivated to do anything. Much less get out of bed.

Tell her you are in a funk right now and that you are sorry and will try to snap out of it.

For yourself. Get moving, get active and try to do things that happy people do. If you are inactive it will make you miserable. Don't do that to yourself. You deserve better and deserve to be happy.

Inactivity leads to despondency, despondency leads to despair.

Action will charge your life and give you energy and vitality.

I hope this works for you.

Remember "This too shall pass."

Answer 5

I think you should be easy on yourself.  You have been through a lot give it a couple of days and your sister will see that you were both uptight etc.  Be kind to yourself, relax eat nice food have a rest et lots of sleep and gradually things will feel better.

Answer 6

im sorry to hear that you have lost the closest person to you and your sister sounds like a totall bi*ch acting like that even when she knows you have lost your nan but you were nice enought to agree to help her and she acts like that dont help her again  

Answer 7

you're not a horrible person, you are grieving and your sis doesnt seem to be able to comprehend what this means and what youre going through...tell her you need some space as you are very hurt about your nan,and tell her you were upset by her not understanding this in the first place......anyway whatever you do dont be alone all the time when you are grieving, if you have no friends or fsmily that u are close to then go see acounsellor, they will listen while you talk about anything, they wont judge and its nice to be able to get stuff off your chest instead of keeping it inside...if you keep stuff buried inside you it will only make things harder in time to come.......my sympathies...losing someone is very hard and your life will never be the same again...you need to learn how to live with it and learn how not to give up....doing this alone isnt easy...believe me!