What should i do with a 10 year old girl who never does what shes told?

Question

ive got a ten year old daughter who is always naughty.She hurt her twin,she dosnt eat her food and she hits me what should i do?

Answer 1

Be firm. Sit her down on her own and explain that you love her but you are not very happy with her behaviour. Ask her to tell you what she think she does that you do not like and why it is unacceptable. If she is not forthcoming than tell her the yourself, try to keep your list to a minimum concentrationg on the most upsetting behaviours rather than berating everything that she does and sounding like a nag. Try to make it clear that you have come to a decision that you are not going to accept these behaviours any longer and that she will be punished. Ask her to suggest a suitable punishment, for instance, "If you were me what would you do when you hit me?" Personally, i would take something that she really loves away, and explain that she has to earn it back. Set the boundaries for this, eg: if you do this.... for three days you will be allowed to have the    back.

Explain that these terms are not negotiable and you will need to be strong and stick to it.

As for the food thing, do not allow her to snack and certainly do not allow her to eat sweets etc after her dinner if she has refused to eat what you have cooked for her.

Ultimately, there is probably a reason for her behaviour, perhaps she is jealous of her twin and thinks that you favour her twin. Until you provide some boundaries you are unlikely to get to the root cause of her behaviour and being sympathetic at this stage will only make you more prone to hert outbursts so stay strong, make a plan, be consistent and do not let her wind you up. Good luck.

Answer 2

start taking her favorite things away and if that dont work apply for super nanny.

Answer 3

As parents we are required to provide our children with love, support, education, food, a roof and clothes.  No one says they have to go to the park or talk on the phone, eat pizza or get that new mp3 they want when my stepson moved in with us he had an attitude and didn't want to listen everything in his room except his bed and a few outfits( not his favs) were removed including his door. If he didn't respect us then we had none for him it is a two way street. When things improved he slowely got his things back. good luck every child is different