What should i do with my friend?

Question

i have this friend named KS . he and i have been close friends for 2and a half years . just so recently , he received his results for his exams and seemed to be quite depressed about it . i sent a text to cheer him up . the next day , he completely ignored me .i tried talking to him but he wouldn't even look at me.i reflected about the things i could possibly have done before but nothing seemed to have worked. my friends around me tried getting the reason why he's ignoring me but all they got was ' i think im angry at Darren ( thats me) because of my hormones.' the other replies were ' who is darren?', 'just shut up ', 'do you want me to slap you ?'and he wouldn't even look at me let alone talk.

is this friendship worth it ? should i continue trying to patch this friendship ?and what should i do if i were to patch it up? i do miss the times we all had. but hes just getting all f'ed up.it has been a week and a half . please help!

Answer 1

everybody grieves and heals in different ways. if he needs his space then give him his space just let him know that whenever he's ready to talk or hang out you'll be there. just don't look at it as a loss right now. he'll come back around hopefully.

Answer 2

hello Darren,

It's been a difficult one and a half week for you.

Maybe your friend KS needs some (more) time and space alone to work through his emotions.

Maybe you can write down your feelings on a piece of paper (like a note or a card) and give it to him in an unobtrusive way (e.g. slip it into his bag or notebook when he's not looking). Just let him know that you value him as a friend and that he can come to you to talk whenever he wants to.

And just wait for him to come around.

Good luck and wish you all the best.

Answer 3

if you have been friends with guy for 2 yrs then i would say try to think of the one thing that would cheer him up that he has always liked that you did together......If what you do doesn't work and you still want to be friends with him try to just let him relax and i bet eventually he will come back to you he will get over and if that doesn't work i would say try to make new friends who won't get mad at you for sending him a text to cheer him up or trying lots of things to just be friends again friends who like you no matter what.........I had that same problem as you pretty much but with a differnt reason for him to be mad at me...........Also try not to let this bother you.....i hoped this helped

Answer 4

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Answer 5

He seems to be loosing his mind. =(

Try this: send him a message saying: "This will be the last time I will ever contact you in my life. Tell me what I have done wrong to make you hate me like that? What happened??? We were friends, I miss that. I tried contacting you, but all you do is get all crazy about it. This is your last chance to tell me what happened. This is my last attempt to patch up this friendship, and after that I will go on with my life. Tell me WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!".

After sending it, do not look at him anymore. Pretend he's a wall, really. Do not go after him.

See his reaction.

He may send you another rude message. Or maybe he realises he will lose your friendship forever and ends up deciding to tell you why he's doing all this.

If you really didn't anything (like stealing his girlfriend or someone he was in love with), than he is getting crazy. Would you want such an unstable person in your life? Is that worth all the trouble? Maybe you should just keep the good memories and pretend he doesn't exist in this world anymore. I may be sounding too radical, but so he is. Personally, I would never even look at this crazy person again (really, I do that when people get crazy), but since you were friends and you miss him, try one last time. And then just go on with your life. He may contact you again in the future. Maybe all he needs is time?

I'm sorry this is happening and I hope you can find a good solution for your friendship. But respect yourself in the first place. Good luck with all this.

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