What should i do with my kids?

Question

i am 22 and i love 5 kids-

8,6,5, and twin 7 months

i don;t think i am ready to be a mom and i want to give custody of my kids to each of their dads. they all have different daddies. i met someone who does not like kids. help me and no mean advice.

Answer 1

Five childern is a lot for any women at any age..but you are still young and it doesn't sound like you have been able to experince all the things young ladies should. I don't think separating the kids from each other is a very good idea that could cause the kids some pretty emotional damage..especially for the ones that are 8,6,5..more than likely the dad's won't talk to each other and the kids won't see each other not to mention what the women in there lives might be like a lot of women will not raise a child that isn't theres and those that do usually favor there own child over there step child ...my suggestion would be your family do you have parents/ aunts-uncles/ older sisters or brothers/ cousins??? That would raise them for you or help you...with your family... your kids could be in separate homes but still be able to know and see each other and have a better chance at more stable family life style..As for the person you met if they don't,can't or won't like childeren you shouldn't  even consider them..Your kids where there first and he needs to know that...I'm not trying to be mean with this next statement but Please Please Please go to the Doctor and get your Tubes Tied...It can always be reversed if need be in the furture....for example if you get married at 30 and your husband says lets have a baby....Please before you get involed with this man or any other man get you children safely and happliy set up in there new living arrangements and try your hardest not to separate them espeacially the three old kids.. Best wishes to you and the kids ..and I will be praying that God gives you the guidance that you need..M

Answer 2

Condoms.

Answer 3

Dont give your kids away because of a new boyfriend, my best friend went through that. She needed counseling because she knew her own mother didnt want anything to do with her. If you really like this guy tell him he has to deal, or get packing. Kids always first, then boyfriends.

Answer 4

If you weren't ready to a mom then what in the world were you doing sleeping with people. You have to pull yourself together, your kids need you. Grow up and take care of them. Sometimes God gives you things you think you can't handle but you will become a better person after you get through it. Your party days are over, has that gone through your head yet. Your 8 year old is going to be like really messed up since she/he had to go through you being with all these different guys. You are out of high school and you need to act like it. Haven't you figured out where babies come from yet? Don't take this as rude or mean, think of it instead as a kick in the rear to make you a better person.

Answer 5

I have no advice for someone who gives birth to 5 children and then decides she doesn't want them because she met a man who doesn't want children. Please find other homes for them, and have yourself fixed so that you do not reproduce again.  

Answer 6

You will regret giving up YOUR children. Dont you realise you are their EVERYTHING. This is so sad, you met someone who doesent like kids! You and you children ARE worthy of someone who will love all 3 of you! You need to learn to find the happiness in being a mother. Being a Mother is Hard I know I have 2. They will test me to no end, But I love them so.

You are overwhelmed Im sure. Find some help, with someone family friends. Offer to do something for them if they babysit for you once every couple weeks.

Answer 7

You had a kid when you were 8? Anyway I think that your kids should be allowed to live at least part time with you.

Answer 8

I am 24 and the fun loving Mommy of three.  I would more than happily adopt one of your children.  I am a stay at home Mom.  If you are completely serious about this, and not some sick joke, please email me.  

Answer 9

You should give your kids to their dads, apparently you have NO PLACE to be a mother. Stop sleeping around and don't have anymore kids. I'm tired of people like you!

Answer 10

counseling....you haven't had time to be a kid and now you have kids.  Get counselling and see what support you can use- see if the fathers can split time with you (as a mom, I can't personally advise you to give up your kids completely- shared custody is a good compromise)

hang in there and good luck